To sleep in spare room forever

[Happyhippy45]

Had a big long spell of DH snoring his head off. Wakes me up, or I wake up and can't get back to sleep because of it. I am, in the long term sleep deprived. I get at least 2-3 hours sleep less a night than him. We go to bed at the same time.
He wakes me up snoring, then I hear neighbours cockrel going off, then I hear next door neighbours through paper thin walls banging about.
Driving me insane.
I kick him....not too violently
Tell him to lay on his side......still snores
I'm at my wits end

My DP decided that he'd prefer to sleep in the spare room, when I woke him up once too often by flinging my arm across him when he was snoring...

This may or may not have been accidental! Of course it wasn't, but don't tell him that

Has he ever tried those nose plasters(can't think what they're called)they worked for my DH and our second oldest DS18.It could be worth a try.

Luckily the spare room is a guest room.......I'd get chucked out when we have guests.
TBH I don't like sleeping on my own either.
I think he's embarrassed about it and that's why he laughs about it and try's to make a joke out of it.
I'll get some info and speak to him about the whole sleep apnea thing again. I have before but he didn't do anything about it.
I got woken again early this morning. It's like a horrible Groundhog Day......snoring, neighbours cockrel, noisy neighbours, try to sleep, weird dreams, wake up tired and grumpy.

My dh affected my life with his snoring . We went to gp who sent him to sleep clinic at local hospital and because the decibels were so loud the NHS gave us a special mouth guard that holds his mouth in place and if he keeps it in he can't snore . Saved our marriage . You only get one from
Nhs and when it gets grubby ( you clean it daily a bit like false teeth ) you can buy another - about £ 250 - best money spent and lasts fir two years or so .
One of best things we ever did .

On the continent nobody sleeps in a bed with anybody. It's the norm. It's too hot. We're all happily married!

Rosie, I'm really sorry for your loss and particularly how sudden it was. I know there are loads of things I would miss about him (although can't imagine his snoring being one). I do think not sharing the same room/bed has had an impact on our closeness - days are so busy we sometimes get little time to chat, and the time in bed was the time to catch up sometimes. On the other hand, I know I was the one who wanted to mull over the day whereas he was just desperate to go to sleep (he's an earlier bedtimer than me). I've come to the conclusion that if you have different sleep patterns/abilities then trying to mesh them is unnatural and it's ok to accept that we all need to get enough sleep to function properly.

Apart from the unpleasantness, sleep apnoea is associated with sudden death. A CPAP machine makes about as much noise as a laptop. Ask your GP to refer him to your local hospital that deals with this. Now.

OP there are many different sizes and shapes of earplugs - you can get 'side sleeper' ear plugs and even get custom made ones!

Make him move to the spare room. Or wake him up every time he wakes you up. Sleep deprivation is a form of tortuure, he's being extremely unreasonable for laughing about it.

Lucie for you.

My DH snores terribly, he had a home sleep study a couple of years ago after I noted that he often stopped breathing following big snores. Not overweight at all, he has sleep apnoea but "only" stops breathing 5x an hour so nothing they will do... He's only 29 now so imagine when he's older he may well stop often enough to get cpap and I'll be able to get off to sleep and stay asleep and not make him roll over repeatedly- it stops it temporarily most times.

My dad has severe sleep apnoea and he sleeps silently now with cpap machine.

It's miserable, I can't sleep with earplugs and he couldn't have a mouthguard due to ridiculous gag reflex!

Gp can refer for home sleep study, worth doing in case they can be more use for him :)

I wish we had a spare room so I could send my oh there! He was given a special mouthguard on NHS as he has some physical deformity causing the snoring - he hated wearing it as it freaked him out so I'm expected to suffer his snoring in silence. I have tried almost all earplugs on the market and none shut out the noise of him snoring. I've almost left him a few times because we have a potential cure and he refuses to use it.

I snore. The GP referred me to the hospital and they made me something that is suspiciously like a gumguard. If I sleep in a stupid position I still snore a bit but if I sleep how I usually do it works. Apparently.

It's a bit uncomfy, bloop, my mouth takes a while to feel normal in the morning. But he makes me a cuppa which takes the dry mouth taste away.
Sexy, me!

OP I hear you. We've been through this. DH has sleep apnea and the doctors said that they wouldn't do anything about it until he lost weight. He wasn't so knackered all the time, he couldn't exercise properly and so we were stuck in a vicious circle. I learnt a few things:

• Not all ear plugs are created equal. Those foam ones are pants. YOu need the silicone ones that look like pellets that you basically mould into your ear. No risk of falling out, much more comfortable and a thousand times more effective.

• There is no shame in separate rooms. We like each other so much more, it turns out, when we don't resent each other over sleep.

• And, treating the root cause makes a difference. In the end, we paid privately for an assessment and for an apnea machine. DH slept properly for the first time in years, had more energy than ever before, dropped a ton of weight and the snoring eased up…

Good luck.