To think that boys are easier to deal with than girls?

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I have all boys who were pretty full on when they were small, however, they are now all in their 20s and apart from a few drunken episodes I have to say that we haven't had a lot of issues with them. On the other hand any of my friends who have girls (especially the teenage ones) all seem to be a bit of a nightmare. It seems to me that teenage girls have a lot more issues than boys, especially with friends and peer pressure. Obviously this is not always but most of my friends have boys and girls and they definitely say the girls are harder work.

Wrinkly you're so right. I have heard so many women make the assumption that girls are bitchy madams and that boys are just lovable puppies.

A woman running a parenting course I was on recently (yes actually the woman running it!) said something about how girls were so much harder and asked me to agree with her.

I also used to work at a prestigious girls' school and when I would tell people the immediate response was "ooh I bet they were catty".

Drives me fucking bonkers. Has noone heard of self fulfilling prophecy?!!

Nope. Worked in secondary schools and they can both be as bad as each other. If anything (from my experience)I think you need to worry more about boys as they can be less likely to confide problems as evidenced by the higher suicide rate amongst young men.

Hate this sort of stereotyping. I was told the other day I need a son as girls are not as affectionate - complete tosh she was probably jealous as she only had boys a daughter is yours for life you know

My DD's not hard work at all - maybe helps that we're not into gender stereotypes? And that she thinks of herself as an individual and doesn't seem to worry about 'peer pressure'?

Oh l agree. But thankfully us dm of dd can think to ourselves a son's a son until he gets a wife, a daughter's a daughter all her life.

Bowie, it is possible that my ds could be ready in minutes- but this has never been put to the test. He certainly seems to care as much about his appearance being right as dd does- and far, far more than I have ever done.

I do suspect that even today there are girls who are able to leave the house without makeup, even some that never wear it.

Bowie - all I can say is that maybe you don't know that many teenage girls. Mine is 17 and doesn't do makeup at all. Afaik a few of her friends do, certainly not all.

Total rubbish.. It depends on the individual, not their sex. My parents found my two brothers very stressful during their teens and early twenties, they rebelled and got into all kinds of trouble. They always say they had an easy time with me.

All 3 of mine are wankers at the moment, gender irrespective.

Buckled at this

FabulousChic is there something wrong with some girls wanting to wear makeup and short skirts? I don't understand your point at all, sorry. How is it relevant to girls being 'harder work', as the OP suggested?

OP, my 9yo DD is an absolute treasure. Quiet, funny, sensitive, thoughtful, kind - quite happy to curl up in a corner and read for hours on end. Would give you the last of anything she ever had. Would sooner chop off a limb than ever be nasty to anybody. Hates confrontation. My nephews, on the other hand, are a pair of tearaway monsters. Great fun to be around, but fuck me are they hard work. They're determined, stubborn, LOUD, quite aggressive at times, they roughhouse and shout and scream. They're the total opposite of my DD.

None of that is gender related though, they just have very different natures. Plus they've all been raised with different parenting standards/techniques. Whether or not a child is 'easy' depends solely on the child, not their gender. It's a debate for nature vs. nurture, not penis vs. vagina.

So yes, YABU.

This was on a facebook group I am on recently.

Post after post (from the women) was about how awful girls are, how bitchy and hormonal'. It made me very sad.

Plus its not true.

What rubbish, I hate this sort of sexism.

We aren't all defined by our gender. FWIW, my experiences have been quite different but it doesn't anything to do with gender.

I agree and disagree.

My boys, 17 and 18, were easier up until a certain age. Once they hit around 15 and got into girlfriends and partying they became more hard work. Admittingly my 2 girls are still only 16 so we may have more to come There was a party almost every week that they'd go to and come home pissed or just not come home at all leaving me to worry. Then they started bringing girls home and suddenly we had all their drama plus the girls drama to deal with too.

My sons have been very little trouble at all and my friend's daughters are being a nightmare at the moment. I was shocked at how cheeky they were to her when I was visiting. However that's just the way our individual children are. I know lots of boys who have been very badly behaved and girls who were lovely. The teen years can be challenging for either sex.

Then they started bringing girls home and suddenly we had all their drama plus the girls drama to deal with too.

That's what I came her to say too. Mine are similar ages as "drama*s 2 DS 17 and 18, a 16 year old DD, an 18 year old DSS and a 16 year old DSD. The 2 girls are much less work compared to 3 boys and the girlfriends. DS2 got beaten up pretty badly not too long ago because of something a girl he was seeing had done and for some reason he felt the need to get involved. 🙄 Needless to say that girl didn't come near our house again.