WIBU to tell this adult stranger to say please?

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We live on a new-ish estate and the door numbers are confusing as they don't go up in odds/evens and there's lots of hidden cul-de-sacs randomly numbered, so we get a lot of confused drivers asking where a certain number house is and I'm always happy to help.

Tonight was on the driveway getting DD out the car and a bloke pulled up in a car, wound his window down and shouted "Number 11!" At me. I was a bit and thought I misheard, so I went up to his window and said "sorry?" And he said slowly and quite patronisingly "Number 11?".

Now I'm guessing he was frustrated at not finding the house and was therefore a bit moody but one of my huge bugbears is adults who don't say please and thank you, it (unreasonably) gives me the rage. So I replied "I think the word you're looking for is please". He rolled his eyes and said "whatever" and drove off.

I thought he was being a nob. DH said I was making a fuss over nothing and should have just told him where the house was and accepted that some people are just rude.

Gabilan Your comment made me laugh!

I agree, there is no excuse for bad manners. One of my biggest pet hates. I don't think there was anything wrong with what you said op. He was being an arsehole.

redexpat I worked in bars for 11 years and if u said that you definitely would have got a talking to from the boss! Unless it was a regular and you were saying it in jest.

Back to the OP, I think I would have said something along the lines of "no I'm number 32", or something like that.

I had exactly the same thing as woof in a cafe the other day - a bloke just walked over to me, looked briefly at the door next to my seat and said 'toilets?'. Annoyingly I did answer him with 'Oh, no, they're over there ' but I did shout 'you're welcome' after him as he walked off.

No pleases and thankyous are one thing, but the laziness of not even being able to address me with a proper sentence is just ridiculous. My mum asked if he was young when I told her (he wasn't, he was easily 20 years older than me!) - I don't think it's anything to do with age or class, it's just downright rude.

I thought you might BU reading the title as some people get a bit hung up on 'please' e.g. if he'd said "Would you mind telling me where number 11 is?" that would have been acceptable IMO, but just to bark 'no 11' is well rude! YADNBU!

'That's NUMBERWANG!'

Well done you- there is no reason to bark out a statement and expect a polite and helpful response in return.

If he'd wanted your help he should have asked for it in the proper manner- simply adding an extra couple words "do you know where number 11 is please" and he'd have had his answer!

He was a knob.

Your DH thinking you should have helped him anyway despite his utter rudeness and are "making a fuss" is also quite knobbish actually. Unless "making a fuss" means to be treated politely as any human is entitled to?

Yanbu. He was a knob

I am with pp who would have shouted random numbers back.

Also think your dh is off for saying you were making a fuss. It's just a hint of the mindset that things women are "making a fuss" if they comment on anything or point anything out.

Well played OP

I work in a shop and people walk up to me and just say one word so like 'paint?' 'Paper?'
I always want to say, 'yes, what about it?'
But don't, I have to say 'follow me I'll show you'
No pleases or thank you's. It's so rude.
Not all customers, but more than you'd expect.

Should have shouted 'BINGO!'

The thing is, most civilised adults would have said please without even thinking so having another adult correct your lack of manners would mortify them. Which means he is an absolute asshat because instead of taking it on the chin and saying "I'm so sorry, could you tell me where 11 is please" he got pissed off and rolled his eyes, which means he is aware of his own lack of manners and is even more of an arse than he initially appeared.

When the revolution comes and I am king, that's the first type of person I will have beheaded.

Nah - beheading's too good for them. Make them work in the service industry and see how they like being treated like shit.