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AIBU to ask what things you did as a teenager but would be horrified by if your DCs did them now?

133 replies

BowieFan · 12/10/2016 17:42

I'll start:

*Smoking when I was about 15
*Drinking when I was about 14
*Copping off with lads
*Immediately taking off my sensible skirt when I got round the corner and changing into a leather mini skirt and heels at my friend's house...
*Getting arrested for throwing eggs at John Major (actually, I'd be proud of the kids if they did that to David Cameron!)

I wasn't a wild child, honest!

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EllenDegenerate · 12/10/2016 22:02

I may still have the odd insouciant L&B when pissed, I'm only thirty three and the weaning process is gradual Wink

NameOfUser · 12/10/2016 22:02

Drinking, smoking, drugs all in early teens. Having first baby at 16.

Dontpanicpyke · 12/10/2016 22:11

bowie.

Me and best friend both 50 singing 'don't you want me baby' totally pissed. Dd cane into the kitchen, raised one eyebrow and left. Grin

ItShouldHaveBeenJess · 12/10/2016 22:13

ellen am resisting the urge to plunder the nicotine goldmine that is the pile of dropped ciggy butts outside my neghbour's window. I hope you are proud....

SandyY2K · 12/10/2016 22:16

Getting lifts from strangers. (18/19)
Smoking (14/15)

EllenDegenerate · 12/10/2016 22:17

Jess I am duly impressed (especially if you are drunk) Grin

ItShouldHaveBeenJess · 12/10/2016 22:20

ellen. Stone cold sober, tragically. I even have an e-cig! Not the same, though.. muttered grumblings about the sanitisation of modern life

SpeckledyBanana · 12/10/2016 22:24

Pyke no, we got away with it Grin

BowieFan · 12/10/2016 22:25

ItShouldHaveBeenJess

My proudest drunk moment is sharing a cab with Jimmy Somerville and him giving the driver a wad of notes to make sure we got back to our hotel alright. Now when I'm drunk and sing "Don't Leave Me This Way" with my mates and tell my kids, they just look at me strangely and say things like "I don't even know who that is, but I'm just glad he didn't want to sleep with you!"

Oh the irony. I'd have done anything to get off with Jimmy Somerville. Even now. I still have this habit of fancying gay blokes.

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EllenDegenerate · 12/10/2016 22:33

I'm currently cooking a baby so I can't even have an ecig Confused
I'm jealous of that ecig Jess, don't knock it!

BowieFan · 12/10/2016 22:33

I haven't had the urge to smoke in years but this thread is now making me crave some.

I'd kill for a guilt-free and no health risk pack of Lambert and Butler. My mum has smoked 20 cigs a day for 60 years and she's fine, lucky bugger. It's her fault anyway, I always used to nick one of her Embassy cigs. She knew as well, she always used to say to my dad "Oh I'll have to speak to them in the shop next time, there's only 19 in here!" and then wink at me!

God, that's just made me think - could you even send your kid to get fags for you these days? I remember my mum sending me for her fags and my grandma's bottle of stout when I was about 6!

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Dontpanicpyke · 12/10/2016 22:48

This thread has me laughing and good speckeldy well done lying a life skill Grin

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 12/10/2016 22:53

Lots of sex, drugs, alcohol, dangerous climbing about on bridges etc, driving a car with no license. I was an absolute fucker. Blush

ChunkyMcBitch · 12/10/2016 23:02

Ran away from home for a week at 13
Drinking far too much by the time I was 15 (gave up drinking at 18)
Being very irresponsible with boys from14
Lying about staying at a friend's house to stay with boyfriend
Driving with no licence and having lifts with unlicensed drivers

I didn't go to Uni (regrettably) I would have loved to have the experiences DD had!

aquashiv · 12/10/2016 23:04

It would sadden me more if they didn't go out there, live life and take more risks than I did.

BabyGanoush · 12/10/2016 23:17

This thread is an eye opener Shock

I was going to say things like:" calling random numbers and having conversations with strangers", but did not get drunk/go with boys/smoke until much older (like.... 20?!) and never tried any drugs.

Need to ask my parents how they did that?! They said they trusted me and allowed me to go to pubs or clubbing from age 14. (I never bought more than 2 drinks) About smoking they said: that is your choice, we can't stop you if you want to. About boys they said: trust yourself

I had flipping nothing to rebel against!

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 12/10/2016 23:22

Oh I forgot skipping school and smoking too. Its nice to have a full house. Grin

MargotLovedTom · 12/10/2016 23:24

E's, speed, dope, fags, all night drinking binges with blackouts, one night stands, fucking up A levels, taking back a boyfriend I should have left in the past, being very lax with contraception...I had a blast really Wink.

MargotLovedTom · 12/10/2016 23:25

Oh yes, and getting engaged at 16. It lasted about three months.

Dontpanicpyke · 12/10/2016 23:46

Baby see that my point right there.

Me and dh took the attitude that if we said no to everything then they would rebel.

So dds had ears pierced at 8, I had an irate friend call me up to complain about that as she had said no to her dd. And allowing slip on dolly shoes well what a bad mother. Grin

Her dd was a fucker as s teen where ours are frankly lovely but tame.

the stricter you are about the little things like clothes, hair, piercings etc that really don't matter the more they rebel.

I lied constantly to my parents so they had no idea what I was up to. If you trust them and allow them to share things with you they don't have to do so many risky things.

ClaudiaJean2016 · 12/10/2016 23:52

Drinking alcohol. I would be a bit horrified by drinking to the point of blacking out at any age tbh as I think it's not something everyone necessarily does. I thought it was normal at the time. Now I don't drink at all as I know it wasn't.

Dontpanicpyke · 12/10/2016 23:58

My teen dds have one glass of ROSE wine when they are pushing the boat out.

Why God where have I gone wrong Grin

madein1995 · 13/10/2016 00:21

Drinking alcohol heavily as a way to deal with problems and bullying etc from the age of 11 [shocked]
Smoking from the age of 13
Smoking in the trees on the school site where I knew homeless people slept, and drug deals went on
Stealing from parents to pay for fags
Going to drug dens from 14 thankfully never did anything worse than weed Thinking it fine to walk the 4 miles home from aforementioned drug dens in the dark with my friend who was also 14
Going to a friends house after school one day as I was pissed off with mum and wanted to scare her -what an absolute twat I was, ended with police knocking on friends door Taking alcohol into school as a teenager
Putting my parents through absolute hell from 13-17, I have no idea how they coped with me
Go on stupid diets that amounted to eating an apple for lunch and as little of tea as I could get away with when I was already underweight
Putting up with bullying for years and controlling and shit friends, and every so often snapping over the smallest thing and going mad before apologising and putting up with it again Sad
Wanking a boy off at 16 behind the leisure centre – hardly the most discrete place Hmm
Self harming
That sounds shocking looking back, but in a way it’s made me a stronger person and it’s far from what I am now. Also meant that when in uni I wasn’t quite so keen to go off the rails at my friends as I did my rebellion much earlier. I know my kids will probably be doing the same type of thing – but the using drugs or alcohol to self medicate is a biggie hope for me, along with the confidence thing and the not putting self in danger constantly. My main hope is that my kids have more confidence than I ever did, as most of what I did in that time was down to a desire to fit in and to get over the bullying etc. I think what I’ve done will make me a better parent though – I’ve done the whole lying to parents thing and I did it quite well so hopefully it’ll make me more aware and be able to be on top of things more.

TheNaze73 · 13/10/2016 00:22

Putting dog shit in paper bags & setting fire to it, waiting to watch people stamp it out

imwithspud · 13/10/2016 00:23

I was quite tame until around the age of 16 where I went off the rails for a couple of years. I did some very stupid things in that time, a lot of it was probably down to low self esteem whilst also wanting to push the boundaries or seem cool to others:

Losing my virginity in a foreign country to some sleazy middle aged bar man whilst completely drunk. Wasn't bothered at the time but now I wish I'd at least saved it for someone I knew better - 17

Separating from my group of friends in a club one night and getting a taxi to a 'guy friends' flat. Didn't check that the taxi was genuine, didn't have enough money to pay the full fair. Was lucky it wasn't someone dodgy - 18

Having a cigarette outside the pub opposite my house before going home after a night out, steaming drunk. Got talking to two random men and invited them to come round for a smoke (weed), ended up passing out on my bed before any smoking commenced. They left at that point to my knowledge, my parents were home too and somehow never found out. It freaks me out every time I think of it, they could have been anyone and could have done anything to me or stolen stuff etc. Just really odd and monumentally stupid behaviour on my part and to this day I don't know what I was thinking. I'm just glad that they were seemingly decent men - 17

Smoking weed in the smoking area at 6th form, missing lessons or turning up to them high. Lots of good memories yes but really not appropriate. Pretty sure some of the smoker teachers were aware of it too but never did anything about it - 16/17

Numerous times of lying about staying at a friends house for the night when really a group of us would be sat in the rugby stands of a nearby rugby club smoking weed and drinking all night - 16/17

I have 2 dd's and I hope to god that they grow up to be far more sensible than me. I know they are bound to make mistakes and do the odd silly thing but hopefully they won't do anything that might put themselves at immediate risk like I did.