To ask the teacher to complement her class for me?

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I went to an assembly as a parent of a reception class child (my youngest) and noticed how brilliant the year 6 children were with the little ones, helping them find a place to sit,making sure they got their drink and biscuit at the end, comforting the ones that cried,then they worked together to clear everything away afterwards.

As a catholic school they really emphasise that you should threat others as you want to people to treat you so I was going to ask the year 6 teacher to tell he class how impressed I was.
Dp says they will think I'm weird

Do it OP! I think it's a lovely gesture.

I think positive praise is massively underrated.

Yes, that would be a good thing to do. Just mention it to teacher how kind and caring you thought they were.

It would be great if you gave some examples in your card of 'brilliance' so that children can recognise themselves IYSWIM rather than a generic 'you were great'.

I taught year 5/6 last year and on a few occasions the class got a thank you or well done note/card from parents. The children were delighted and it models good manners - the cards always went up on the board, Please do it - they'll be really pleased.

If I were the teacher I would be thrilled, and would be delighted to feed the compliment back to my class. And the children would feel very proud and special to receive it.

Commenting on good behaviour encourages it. One of the problems we have (as human beings) is to take the good fro granted and complain about the bad. It's lovely that you appreciate what helpful and charming children they are.

Go for it!

I think it is a lovely idea. Please spell it "compliment", though!

How I remember it:
Compl I ment =I like you
Compl E ment = Extra

(And I hadn't noticed it was two different words until a couple of years ago)

I work for an organisation that organises events for school children. We often receive thank you notes and pictures from the children (which we love to receive) thanking us for our visit and telling us which parts they particularly enjoyed. Obviously teachers are trying to teach the kids about good manners so I think any class would love to hear some feedback about their behaviour.
GeorgeTheThird beat me to it it's "compliment"

It's not weird at all. I read to my daughters class for the first time last week and they were fantastic.

We've just moved to the school and so don't know any of the children or staff. I wrote an email to the class teacher afterwards complimenting the class on their enthusiasm, engagement and good manners.

The teacher seemed very pleased.

I love the little card idea. Doesn't have to be much of anything, and hand it in at the school office.
I used to work in a school and things like that were always so appreciated. They would make their way from the office or staff member to the head, who would put it in the staff room for all to see. Then at the end of the day the class teacher would show it to the kids and praise them and pin it up for all to see.
In small schools all the staff play a part in teaching manners and caring behaviour so it's such a boost to them all.

That said the last school I was at had a feedback book that parents or visitors could sign on their way out. The head would check it daily and share any comments in the next (none parent) assembly. As a religious school we had assembly Mon to Thurs morning without parents.

You are reinforcing great behaviour - go for it!

My DS started reception this year. He had a bit of a rocky start due to his ASD but is now settling in, and the other children have been fab. He was recently invited to a party of a little girl in his class who has been looking after him - when I sent the RSVP to her mum, I mentioned my gratitude regarding her kindness. Mum was chuffed. Everyone likes their efforts to be noticed from time to time.

"As a catholic school they really emphasise that you should threat others as you want to people to treat you "

now there's a thing.

Ewwwww......just noticed PPs are correcting the OP's spelling after she suggested doing a kind and thoughtful thing.

Sometimes, Mumsnet....

Definitely do it! I've done that before when DC behaved really well on a school trip I was on. It was much appreciated.

As a catholic school they really emphasise that you should threat others as you want to people to treat you

I must have missed that at my daughters Catholic school. I had to pull her out it was shocking the way they treated each other.

tweet it to them, then its public to parents too.

hmmm about the catholic values though, doing unto others is central to most major religions, innit

Lovely idea.

When Dd was 3 she runs away from me at local tourist attraction. Literally turned my back for 10 seconds and she was gone.

Some year 5 children were on a trip from local school and as soon as a couple of them realised what had happened they got a group of friends and hunted for her. They found her 5 minutes later and bought her back while I was still panicking

I wrote to their head teacher and had a lovely response saying all involved had even given a head teachers award in assembly and they were just glad Dd was alright

That is a truly lovely idea and I am sure will be appreciated by both the teacher and pupils. I am sure a written card or note would be most appreciated since it could be pinned up in class.

Please do not think however, that non denominational schools would not expect exactly the same standards from their children. That what you saw, is in any way related to your particular religion, is an abhorrent attitude to hold.

My ex teacher mother wrote a note to the head of dds primary about the good behaviour shown by many children at the summer fair she attended. The head read it out in assembly!

This Username I wouldn't hold back, give them the positive feedback they deserve. Compliments about children, especially from visitors are always welcome (I work in a primary school).
Can't imagine a school that would think you were being weird.

By the way, children can be well behaved at any school. It's not a Catholic school thing

I always compliment a job well done.

I think it makes people's day. It gives them something to hold on to when things are going badly and everyone seems to be complaining. It's a motivator for future behaviour. It lets the boss know who is actually doing a good job (as opposed to telling everyone they are).

I've written this sort of letter in the past to praise impressive behaviour of children in our primary school - it was much appreciated by the teacher (who said it made her cry!) and the children and put up on the relevant noticeboard for at least a term. Agree with giving really concrete examples. I bet you'll notice that they are ever more amazing if you come back to an assembly after they've had such lovely feedback!

As a teacher I think it would be a lovely thing for you to do, I would be really pleased and proud if it was my class!

Another teacher here-please send in a note. The children and teacher will be chuffed.