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was I being U to quit?

35 replies

Cocklodger · 12/10/2016 12:45

I've worked in the same place for a few years now.
Its a chain type place with lots of stupid regulatory rules made by HO, but not something I can challenge, change or control (or anyone else in my workplace for that matter- including regional and general managers)
My career progression goes like this.
Position A( Where I started) Position B, position C and so forth.
I got to position B very very quickly, but haven't progressed at all, which happens, I get it.
But its the way I'm being sidelined that hurts and is really hurting my passion for this job.
For example, the first time the promotion became available, I went for it, didn't get it due to a internal superior candidate (fair enough and expected 100 percent) this was 2yrs back. 3 months after superior candidate got the job they were transferred out to another site. Job went up again,
Offered internally and externally (for application), Internal candidate from another site (But same brand) came down and filled the position. Weren't superior to me but oh well...
Then they left, 6 months later. I did the job for 6 weeks as a stand in at no pay rise or recognition formally, told I had a good chance of being kept on, then last minute a cock up happened with one of our other managers and HO filled both that managers role (it was a spectacular cock up that cost the business 10k, they needed replacing) but also the role I was standing in for, so again, I was sidelined :(
Then that person that filled role C left, I went for it. someone else from our brand (Who works in a totally different part, think chef v waitressing, which is essential to the other but absolutely not the same) went for it and got it as it meant same salary for them but working less (60hrs v 35). They thought they could handle it. They can't, they know it. But they can't stand down.
If they stand down it means going to position A, rather than back to their old position, which is a salary cut that they cannot afford having just got a mortgage at their current salary.
I'm constantly stepping in to stop this person from fucking us up, badly.
I had to come into work at 0 minutes notice (Got told basically fucking get here ASAP) because an official inspection was underway but this person had walked out there and then because they didn't know how to deal with it. I dealt with said official inspection and did well with it. Certain bits of paperwork need doing, this is falling to me, team training and new regulations that team needs to be aware of, falls to me. I have to do the weekly rota because this person does not have the time. They do not enjoy the job, they are openly quite miserable and want to be back in their old job. Today things came to a head when I rather unprofessionally threw a shit fit and told said new person that I shouldn't have to do their fucking job for them at 10k a year less. I listed off both of our job description, pulled out rotas, paperwork, some data etc and said come on then tell me what the fuck you've done for the duration of your job. What on earth have you ACTUALLY done? they then looked sheepish and admitted they'd done very little of their job role and that the things they do are closer to my job role rather than theres. They admitted they had no idea how to do half of the stuff I do.
I know, by now I sound a cunt. I know. But I don't mind helping out, I really don't , but theres a difference between x is short on time please help with this and x can't do this, please do it.
anyway. My outburst made said person go to the manager and explain, who phoned the regional manager and requested a transfer for said person.
Regional manager says no. Computer says no type response.
They can't transfer out. All they can do, yet again, is stand down to job role A which they won't do. but they're slowly and surely running the business into the ground. It hurts that I didn't get the job tbh but thats fair enough I guess I'd learn to take it on the chin if I wasn't doing their job for 0 recognition and 0 pay... To add insult to injury I fixed a stock loss of 1k recently and they got a performance related bonus of 4k for stock control... Cheers.
I tried to explain this to the regional manager but no not good enough, We're not allowed any more salaried positions, as if said person moved to another department onto salary then someone would need to step into their job and move from hourly to salary and then we'd have too many salaried positions (we currently have 4 Hmm)
I put in a request for 2 weeks holiday. got it granted quickly and then gave my 2 weeks notice. I'm not going back. Since then I've had managers phoning to tell me they need me back, would I consider coming back please, I've made a mistake etc... aibu to stay long gone?

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AlpacaPicnic · 12/10/2016 16:51

Yadnbu... they want the job done but they are not prepared to pay you to do it. They pay someone who isn't capable of doing it... well I'd say they've made their bed etc.
I hope it works out for you.

Cocklodger · 12/10/2016 17:00

Don't need the job at all, it doesn't make a difference to my finances really (dh earns more than 10x my salary). Thanks I've decided not to engage further than "I'll happily discuss taking role c but I'm not interested in returning to role b" further messages of oh I can't do that but you're a valued team member etc etc. So I guess that settles that... I've no idea why that person even took precedent over me when they'd never done a day in anything remotely similar to my role... ah well...

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MagikarpetRide · 12/10/2016 17:03

Well of course you're a valued team member. You're a b who's been doing c's job for ages on b's salary. Now they have a c who openly admits can't do c's role and have lost their b who is perfectly capable of it. Their loss, not yours

zoebarnes · 12/10/2016 18:27

Totally sympathise, but I'm not sure you helped yourself by doing this persons job for them for so long?

What incentive would HO have to promote you when the job is getting done. It's fucked up, but they don't give a shit who's doing it as long as it gets done.
I would have done 'work to rule' a long time ago and stopped helping out with anything beyond my job role. But then I have no loyalty to employers that treat me like this and I'm a bitter cynical old bag

Cocklodger · 12/10/2016 19:51

I know I did myself no favors but this person was so useless that I thought that if I (not very quietly) did their job and tried to help them (While excelling at their job tbh) that I'd either get offered that role or a similar one in a different site, But that hasn't happened and today I blew up (As in OP) after being asked to do yet another thing thats outside my job role.
I 100 percent agree I was naive though. I do manage a team (Well, did, it was meant to be that if said person mentioned wasn't in, I stepped up and did their role, but it meant I was managing the team 90 percent of the time, the 10 percent where the person meant to manage the team was managing was either A- incredibly basic things or B- things a tad more complex but on my word/careful instruction and coaxing). I was/am always very mindful of who works the hardest, gets the most recognition and praise passed high up the hierarchy chain.
I always assumed thats the way shit got done, I guess its meant to be but not everyone does.
I've had a text off regional manager asking me to come in next week to discuss it with him as he'd hate to lose me as an employee... This could be v interesting.
I don't want to sound up my own arse here but I have 10yrs experience in this sector, a whisker under half of it is with this company and I have several qualifications (both company paid for and personally- I've always done my best to excel), I've always had fab references from previous employers, Always worked hard and never had a disciplinary or anything for any reason. I 100 percent deserve better than this shit show... But I guess I may be able to be tempted back for the right pay and conditions... I think I'll be offered something if RM is involved. Thats pretty big

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FlabulousChic · 12/10/2016 20:01

Good luck you deserve a break please post back how you get on

MagpieWife · 12/10/2016 20:34

Please let us know what happens with RM - I think you are really inspiring to stand your ground! Good luck!

Helpisathand13 · 12/10/2016 21:34

Well done you for standing up for yourself, I'm sure many of us reading this have at one time or another felt similarly at work, exploited and vastly undervalued. I do hope things work out well for you. You go girl! Fingers crossed they want you back and recognise exactly what they are missing, enough to give you the job you deserve, job C x

TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 12/10/2016 21:41

I did the same OP. The week before I was due to go back I went in and handed in my keys. It was amazing knowing that nothing that they could say would tempt me back. I had HAD IT. OFFICIALLY!

I have a great role now with no stress. Highly recommend Grin

oleoleoleole · 12/10/2016 21:55

Sounds like Wetherspoons to me!

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