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Original poster

If you're too ill for school you're not playing out!

28 replies

StrongerThanIThought76 · 11/10/2016 16:03

Dc too ill for school after being up in the night vomiting, wants to go out for dinner the same evening.

I say no way, AIBU?

OP posts:
Wolfiefan · 11/10/2016 16:04

Not at all. Out for dinner?! Then they vomit straight after? Grim!

GiddyOnZackHunt · 11/10/2016 16:08

Nope. Not well enough for school = not well enough for fun stuff.

Mybeardeddragonjustdied2016 · 11/10/2016 16:10

Waste of money!!

TheFairyCaravan · 11/10/2016 16:10

No, you can't take them out for dinner or let them play out.

sirfredfredgeorge · 11/10/2016 16:14

But was he too ill for school, or was he kept off due to the vomiting rules of the school?

Regardless arbitrary rules that punish illness are not something I can agree with. If he's well enough to do other things should be wholly based on if he's well enough, not on how he was at some point in the past.

Peach9876 · 11/10/2016 16:14

Not at all.
If he's too poorly for school he should be inside staying warm and resting so that's he's well enough as quickly as possible.
Not to mention if he's had an upset stomach I wouldn't be taking him out for a meal. It would be plain foods and lots of water.
Clearly I'd be a cruel mother! haha

Mar15mite · 11/10/2016 16:18

YANBU not well enough for school equals not well enough to leave your bed!

Shannaratiger · 11/10/2016 16:20

Definitely no school no playing outside.

phillipp · 11/10/2016 16:21

If he was up in the night vomiting, it would be shitty to let him mix with other people and kids tonight.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 11/10/2016 16:23

I agree with you OP.

Original poster
StrongerThanIThought76 · 11/10/2016 16:26

SirFred too ill for school, I'd send them in if it was a simple case of stuffed a face full of sweets at bedtime which had caused vom.

OP posts:
ThumbWitchesAbroad · 11/10/2016 16:29

Totally agree with you OP - can't skip school from vomiting then go out for dinner in the evening, that's not only wrong, it's also a bit risky!

Morporkia · 11/10/2016 16:32

agree with TWA..also most medical advice after vomiting is to eat bland, easily digestible food.

APlaceOnTheCouch · 11/10/2016 16:33

I wouldn't take someone out for dinner if they had been vomiting but I wouldn't necessarily ban them from playing out in the garden. Sometimes a little fresh air helps.

harderandharder2breathe · 11/10/2016 16:34

Too ill for school is too ill to do fun things the same day. Not to mention taking a d&v ill child to a restaurant is a potential disaster!

maddiemookins16mum · 11/10/2016 16:34

"If you're well enough to go out and play, you're well enough to go to school"

Quote from my mum circa 1973/4/5/6 etc.

SocksRock · 11/10/2016 16:35

If mine are off school, they don't get to do anything else. If you are ill, you need to be resting in bed. Tends to sort the real illness from the sniffles if you know it's bed all day

budgiegirl · 11/10/2016 16:38

It's selfish and irresponsible to take someone who has been vomiting (assuming due to a bug) to a restaurant where they could pass their germs to someone else.

I would probably let them play in the garden if they were feeling a bit better, but not let them mix with people outside of the immediate family.

seminakedinsomebodyelsesroom · 11/10/2016 16:38

Not at all U.

mumofthemonsters808 · 11/10/2016 16:46

I agree, too poorly for school, then you are too poorly for a restaurant.I won't even let mine play out, if they've been off school ill.

ample · 11/10/2016 16:56

YANBU.
It's not about the money or food waste if he vomits after the meal; it's the principle! Too poorly for school means in bed or on the sofa for the day.

"If you're well enough to go out and play, you're well enough to go to school"
^^ (repeatedly quoted by my mum too).

Liiinoo · 11/10/2016 16:57

Too right. Too ill for school = too ill for outings/meals out/daytime tv/computer time.

corythatwas · 11/10/2016 17:01

I can only think of a few exceptions to this:

contagious but not actually ill (e.g. chickenpox)- could play/walk outside but well away from other people

neither ill nor contagious but covered by some kind of generic 48 hours rule (e.g. child who threw up due to migraine)- could exercise/socialise gently

MH problems (e.g. depression)- should do whatever is recommended by doctor to improve spirits

In the OP's case- no way.

RosieSW · 11/10/2016 17:04

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corythatwas · 11/10/2016 17:05

Not sure I get the ones who say "too ill for daytime TV". Are you really that virtuous yourselves when you've got the flu or a kidney infection or something that keeps you at home. Do you literally lie flat on your back staring at the ceiling until you are well enough to go to work?

Is there any reason a child who is recovering from chickenpox cannot watch the telly or play on the computer? Is there some kind of sense that a child who is ill should be punished for it so they're not tempted to do it again? (and if so, do we apply the same standards to adults in the family?) Why would you do this if you are convinced that the illness is genuine?