so this year has been a bit of a mare..started off with my DD needing major surgery, swiftly followed by the whole household coming down with flu, then my DH's chronic condition flaring up badly, resulting in a life-changing side effect :'( throughout all of this, I was emotionally supporting my BFF who was going through some kind of weird mid-life crisis. 3 times since january she has announced her intention to up-sticks and move somewhere random, i helped her research areas and find suitable accommodation, even went on a road-trip with her to a random village 4 hours (each way) journey from our home town...only for her to change her mind, wasting a holding deposit that i told her not to pay unless she was 100% (she ignored my advice). then all of a sudden she finds the love of her life and within 3 months...YES 3 MONTHS! has got married and moved to the other side of the country. when i tentatively broached the subject about it being SO FUCKING IMPULSIVE AND WHAT ABOUT THE KIDS?? she shut me down completely, saying it was her life and that i didnt want her to be happy for my own selfish reasons.....i didn't want to lose her friendship, so i just kept my mouth shut about the whole thing...nodded and smiled, etc....even though i had all sorts of shit going on at home I arranged and paid for her hen night, leaving do and was matron of honour at her wedding, paying for my own bridesmaid dress etc...i know this sounds petty but i was a bit peeved that she didn't get her new husband to thank me when he made his speech.... anyway, since she left i have received 1 text message (to thank me for the welcome to your new home apckage i sent her) and 1 message on fb to tell me how happy her and the new husband are...no mention of the kids...she didn't even send my DD a card for a milestone birthday. just a happy birthday on her fb wall. i feel really let down and abandoned by her. rant over, go about your day...lol...but really...am i BU? and petty? or am i right to feel used and hurt?