Name changed as too identifying.
Been with DP 10 years. He works in an office of women and about 2 years ago (before we were engaged) he admitted that he'd developed a crush on one of the women he worked with. It was all dealt with at the time, nipped in the bud and she knew nothing of it - since then he has been promoted in the office and has distanced himself from the women as he is now their boss. He's more professional than 'matey' like he used to be.
Anyway, we are due to get married next year and I've said categorically that I'm not happy with his ex-crush being at the wedding. I want it to be the happiest day of my life and don't want to be reminded of a time when my DP and I had difficulties. We're now so much stronger. I have told DP to not invite any of the women from his office (like I said, he's not friends with them anyway so it would only be out of politeness) and just say we are restricted on numbers.
DP has agreed to this but now keeps making comments that it will be 'awkward' if nobody from the office comes and that the women will be pissed off that they aren't invited.
I've said no- if we invite one, then they all have to come, including the old crush. He seems to think it will make his life 'easier' in work if they're all invited.
AIBU to refuse to invite them? I just feel like the ex crush will taint the day. It WAS just a crush, not an affair, but I'm still not comfortable with her being there.