To be nervous about this?

[gembran]

Flatmate is v lovely but also v big on sharing friends e.g. When her friends/family come over, she invites us all out to spend time with them, likes us all going out for drinks in the eve etc etc. I Iike this too so all good!

Her mum is coming to stay shortly though (in our house) and she has mentioned us all socialising together a few times now. I would love to meet her mum but equally have a few weekend plans of my own and unfortunately lots and lots of work to do (I'm a student).

What can I say without sounding rude or standoffish? I'm also a bit of an introvert deep-down and need time in my room chilling - can't be around people 24/7 especially after long work days!

I just don't think I can spend the whole weekend with her and her mum!

Just saw that you have a lot on that time and pick a couple of things you can join them for.

Ok thanks - it's just weekends are short and precious and I'm not sure realistically whether I do have time to join them, but don't want to be rude

Just be honest. Say you'll have to work in the day but can do the evenings or whatever.

There's nothing rude about not joining them for the whole thing. Just go to the bits you want to go to and say you have other plans/work for the rest.

If she brings it up again, could you say something like "I already have plans all day Saturday / need to work on assignments Saturday, but I can do Sunday afternoon "? (Adjusting times to suit yourself)

That way you're showing a willingness to socialise but at the same time making it clear that you unfortunately can't spend all weekend helping her entertain her mum.

Ok thanks, good suggestions.