To like this music at my age?

[FruitCider]

I'm in my late 20s. Yesterday at work I was filling out my part of the "getting to know us" file we keep at work to break down barriers between us and vulnerable patients. I listed drum and bass and grime as my favourite music, my colleagues looked horrified! Is it really that unusual?!!??

An example of what I like would be this...

Is it time for me to grow up? Or are my colleagues just judgemental prats?

Your colleagues are judgmental prats. From the title, I thought the thread would be about D&B or dubstep, but that you would be about 50 (which would obviously be fine too)

If questioned, your colleagues would say their horrified look was to do with the music being 'yoof', but actually, it's probably subconsciously more to do with class and race than with age.

I like D&B too.

Goldie is 51, FFS. People like what they like. Age is nothing. Just be you and don't let people make you fake what you enjoy.

I'm in my 20s and honestly thought this was the norm! I do get funny looks sometimes off judgemental pricks when I'm on the school run with my children in the car...

Not a big deal. I doubt they were 'horrified' probably just surprised.

It is absolutely fine for you to like that bloody awful music.

No they were genuinely horrified, proceeded to ask me if I take drugs (no) and couldn't understand why I'm into that "culture" . I'm established middle class according to that silly BBC quiz so I don't think it's a class issue either.

My patients thought it was pretty cool though! I guess that's all what matters at the end of the day.

I do get funny looks sometimes off judgemental pricks when I'm on the school run with my children in the car...

My child dances to DnB in the car. My friends think it's funny!

Well, to be fair I think that most people's encounters with DnB/dubstep etc is at parties/clubs with lots of drugs present. It is a kind of music that even a lot of people who are into it don't necessarily listen to it through headphones on a Sunday afternoon while walking the dog or whatever.

I don't like grime but at 45 I still unwind to gabba techno which is unreasonable

It is a kind of music that even a lot of people who are into it don't necessarily listen to it through headphones on a Sunday afternoon while walking the dog or whatever.

I'm sat here listening to it on my sofa, I listen to it before bed!

Fair enough, and nothing wrong with that, but what I'm saying is that maybe they have only encountered it at clubs/parties.

Anyway no it's not unreasonable, just because it's a better experience when you are fucked off your face doesn't mean you have to be does it?

My patients thought it was pretty cool though! I guess that's all what matters at the end of the day.

Do you think your colleagues feel you're trying too hard to be cool?

Perhaps you read 'horror' for 'bemusement'?

It's just music at the end of the day. They need to save their horror for something actually horrific.

Worra possibly, but I've been working with this patient group in various settings for 7 years, I just know what bits of me to disclose to make me seem more approachable! These guys can tell if you are being fake anyway, so there's no point in me pretending to be something I'm not. They appreciate me being real. Sharing my taste of music is not going to put me at any detriment so there's no reason to lie about it.

Sounds to me like it's just classism and racism at work here. FWIW, I'm a 39 year old white woman and the first concert I went to on my own was NWA in Birmingham in 1990 when I was nearly 14. I still love some of that type of music.

Sadly a lot of people are like this when it comes to the arts. They think you have to be a certain type of person to like a certain type of music, which is untrue. My music taste has always been eclectic - the week after I went seeing NWA I went to a Paul Simon gig and then a few months later went to watch New Kids on the Block.

Don't feel ashamed, feel proud!