To take one nephew on holiday and not the rest?

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I name changed for this, as it's very identifying.

I have 2 sisters, my older sister has gone through a really rough summer, she has one nine year old and he's never been abroad before, he's only recently received his passport.

My younger sister has 3 kids, between the ages of 10-5 and they go away every summer.

DH and I have decided to go away for October half term, we only have DS (6) and we really want to invite my 9 year old nephew, but knowing my younger sister, she'll be upset with me.

I don't think it would be fair to invite one of her children and not the other two and we can't take them all.

I don't think I'm being unreasonable but I'm not sure if others would view this as unacceptable.

It sends a very clear message that you have a favourite and they are second best and not deserving of a holiday.

This is one of the most ridiculous things I've read on MN in a long while - I there's quite a lot to choose from some days

Of course it doesn't say any such thing.
You have an 'only' and one sister has an 'only' so it makes perfect sense for them to spend holidays together as company for one another. It's nothing to do with the other sister. If she can't see that, I don't think it's worth spending the energy on her tbh.

It's totally fine

Not all kids need to be treated the same all the time

Sounds like a lovely thing to do. Hope he has fun!