DH and I both have decently paid jobs and a comfortable lifestyle. My Dsis and her husband both have jobs of a similar nature/pay and enjoy a comfortable lifestyle too. My Dsis has always been favoured by my mum.
My mum constantly makes comments making out that DH and I are poor and that my sister and BIL are not poor. For example we have decorated our living room in the past few weeks and bought new furniture. I spoke to my mum on the phone last night and she said we'd done well decorating it especially since we "Only have DH's and my earnings coming in". I said we both earn a decent salary but she just ignored me. We get comments like this ALL THE TIME! It infuriates me. She will then in the next breath start talking about what a good job my sister has and about how they can afford expensive things.
She also, all the time goes on and on about how she hates the benefits system but doesn't mind paying into the system at the moment as DH and I apparently get benefits. We get no benefits at all, not even child benefit, and no matter how many times I re-iterate that we don't get any benefits she still seems to think that we do.
She also quizzes me all the time about everything that the DCs and I wear, asking if it's new and how much did it cost, and making comments like "I don't know, all these new clothes, wasting money that you don't have", even when we are not wearing anything new at all and I've never ever said to her that I spend money that we don't have.
AIBU to be pissed off with these comments?
AIBU?
Would this annoy you? My mum always makes out that DH and I are poor
MoonBabyMoonBaby · 04/10/2016 16:26
She also, all the time goes on and on about how she hates the benefits system but doesn't mind paying into the system at the moment as DH and I apparently get benefits. We get no benefits at all, not even child benefit, and no matter how many times I re-iterate that we don't get any benefits she still seems to think that we do.
This is seriously bizarre! 
nina - she actually makes stuff up about my children when they were little and tells me as if she is their parent.
MY mother does this! She did it recently; told one of my DDs how she remembers her not managing to get to the loo in time a lot when she was little (DD is now 18 btw).
DD was i was 
. It's just not worth the struggle. We laugh about it when she's out of earshot.
People are strange that's for sure!
My dmum has never ever commented on money or lack thereof. She is just glad that her children are content/happy in their jobs and lives.
However, she has the idea that one of my siblings is getting divorced- not true at all (Dmum is in the early stages of Alzheimers) 
FIL is weird about money too. When DH and I got engaged, his reaction was "how much was the ring?". Wtf?!
DH and I are academics. Most of our extended families think we are STILL students 
. "Oh schokolade, how is your course going? Must be nearly finished eh". I can only assume they think we are terrible students to still be slogging away at the same degree a good 15 years later, humph.
My mum is one for constantly implying my house is too small for our needs. This house might be smaller than her current one, but still larger than the house I grew up in (that she said was large enough and she'd never take on more cleaning ). Ok, I have one more child now than she ever had. But we have two extra rooms.
But it's great, I'm never prevailed upon to host parties etc (we have lots of family get togethers) because of my "too small" house. My brother was even expected to host in his (lovely) 2 bed flat. But I'm the one with space problems for some reason!
I just help with the odd dishwasher load / make a dish of food and never have the big effort. I secretly delight in it.
M0nsters that seems like an excellent deal to me!
A relative of ours made some extremely rude comments when we moved to a much larger house. The comments implied that the mortgage must be at the very maximum we could afford and we must be really stretched. In fact the bank would have lent us twice as much. She'd be furious if she knew what we earn. Fortunate as we've been refusing to tell her for 20 years she has no idea. 
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