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AIBU?

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Aibu to be annoyed at people's lack of basic manners?

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Starryeyed16 · 03/10/2016 10:33

So I'm doing the school run today, with my 8yr 3yr and 6month who is now in a pushchair. We have a small pathway between a school and housing estate to get further up to DS school.

We were walking along and there's a group of women with two large dogs and some children completely blocking the pathway talking there is no way to get past them, they see me walking but don't move and after several attempts of me politely saying excuse me they barely give me enough room to get back single filed. I looked at them and said they shouldn't be stood like that and got a dirty look. Surely it's common sense if you see someone coming the opposite direction you move in to let them pass. When did people become so rude?

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HerFaceIsaMapOfTheWorld · 03/10/2016 12:18

inconsiderate

SaucyJack · 03/10/2016 12:21

"9/10 they will not go single file for the 5 sec that it will take the person to get passed, instead the person is made to walk in the road or mud."

Or you can just stop still, and wait for them to go single file around you.

Had to train a particular group of mums coming the opposite way that I see most mornings on the school run into this. Took a few goes for the message to sink into their teensy little bwains that I wasn't going to walk in the road with my DC just so they didn't have to stop talking for 23 seconds, but we all got there in the end.

MrsderPunkt · 03/10/2016 12:22

I'm really enjoying MN's new definition of "dictate

And I'm wondering what you class as the old definition?

Queenbean · 03/10/2016 12:23

I love the random Italian bashing halfway through this thread

hmcAsWas · 03/10/2016 12:25

I hate this OP

Unfortunately rudeness in others tends to elicit rudeness in me

In similar situations I will say something to the effect of "Take the whole pavement up, why don't you" - whilst giving them gimlet eyes and a bunch of attitude (no, I'm not proud)

blueskyinmarch · 03/10/2016 12:28

I had an issue like this today. I was walking along a narrow path by a busy road. A contractors van was pulled up half onto the pavement facing me and two guys were loading stuff into the back of the van. They had left the driver door wide open completely blocking the path with the radio blaring out. Both guys saw me but neither came to do anything about the door blocking my way. I said nothing but gave them a pointed stare and had the satisfaction of slamming the van door shut as i walked past. I didn’t look back but I suspect they were giving me the evils. Entitled, bad mannered cunts.

UncontrolledImmigrant · 03/10/2016 12:31

the stereotyping of Italians is pretty incredible, especially the one on the back of 'I've been to Italy and seen Italian students on school trips'

Imagine becoming an expert on cultural mores after a few exposures to a tiny tranche of society

Rosa · 03/10/2016 12:34

It smacks of attitude but then many Italians have no manners

neither do many English .....

Passing the popcorn round !

imnotreally · 03/10/2016 12:36

Rosa what flavour is yours? And did you bring chocolate?

Mozfan1 · 03/10/2016 12:38

Not really sure why MMHQ is letting that comment stand tbh

BingbastardBunny · 03/10/2016 12:39

YANBU it's common sense as well as basic manners to move aside when you see people coming.
I have similar problems in my local supermarket. Elderly people gather in the aisles and pass the time of day. If you dare to ask politely to pass you get dirty looks and mutterings.

ShotsFired · 03/10/2016 12:39

blueskyinmarch I had an issue like this today. I was walking along a narrow path by a busy road.

Same narrow path, but no contractor, just a rude woman who completely ignored the fact I had stood right in the gutter to let her pass by.

A very loud "YOU'RE WELCOME" seemed to do the trick...

DoinItFine · 03/10/2016 12:40

This didn't even happen in Italy, but now the thread is about the manners of Italians

Lweji · 03/10/2016 12:41

Or you can just stop still, and wait for them to go single file around you.

I do this. :)

But it is a problem when the group is standing. unless you push the chair against them. No, don't do that.

Lweji · 03/10/2016 12:42

I have similar problems in my local supermarket

Oh, don't get me started on the baskets and trolleys left in the middle of the aisles!

Lweji · 03/10/2016 12:43

I'm also not going to mention the problems I have in Portugal, and will let the Italians be the punch bag

DorcasthePuffin · 03/10/2016 12:46

I don't think it's true that people instinctively move out of the way, and neither do I agree that these must be 'Jeremy Kyle types'. I live in a posh area, and am often to be found, swearing under my breath, as I battle against the school run while I'm trying to get a train. If it's not buggies two or three abreast, it's armies of scooting toddlers whose parents expect me to leap from their path. It doesn't bother me too much normally, but sometimes I have to walk with a stick and then it bothers me a lot. I'm amazed at how many parents just think having small children gives them the right of way, and that it's ok for someone with a stick to have to leap in the road so their kids can scoot unimpeded.

I only curse under my breath because my kids go to the same school, and I don't have the appetite for playground war. But it has made me a bit of a tyrant with my own kids, who know better than to expect adults (especially older or disabled adults) to get out of their way.

SabineUndine · 03/10/2016 12:52

People use the covered stairs at my local railway station to shelter if it's raining. If you need the rail to get down by, it's impossible.

Badbadbunny · 03/10/2016 12:59

I walk a lot along a canal footpath and am regularly faced with groups of ramblers or a couple of dog walkers or a couple of mothers with prams who take up the entire width of the footpath and make no attempt to go into single file to allow me to pass meaning I have to walk on the grass/weed verge. Just recently I've stopped doing it. If such a group are approaching, I just stick to the footpath and stop, virtually face to face with them, until they go into single file or go into the grass/weed to get past.

PoppyBirdOnAWire · 03/10/2016 13:00

To clarify:
I said "many Italians". That is not stereotyping and it has certainly been my experience of the behaviour in the UK. I once taught in a secondary school which was used as an Italian Summer School in a particular city and out first day back after the summer holidays was interesting. There was graffiti galore and snogging teenagers in our main staff room at the morning interval.
I have travelled widely in Italy - probably doing the tourist thing, mainly - so for the most part it is a very different experience.

But here - grrrrrr

tofutti · 03/10/2016 13:02

MrsderPunkt...I don't think the OP gives a shit where the rudies stand as long as they don't block her path.

PoppyBirdOnAWire · 03/10/2016 13:03

"Lweji

I'm also not going to mention the problems I have in Portugal, and will let the Italians be the punch bag"

Hmmmm. I gave only been to Lisbon and found it and the Portuguese people fine.

Loving your scored-out post. So clever.

PoppyBirdOnAWire · 03/10/2016 13:04

Oh look. The scoring/out "cleverness" has been disappeared. Cool.

PoppyBirdOnAWire · 03/10/2016 13:04

...scoring-out

PoppyBirdOnAWire · 03/10/2016 13:09

...HAVE only

I must proofread x 50.

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