MIL body shaming my DD

[Oysterbabe]

I have a 9 month old. She's not crawling yet and she's a gorgeous, chubby little thing. MIL has made several comments about her weight. We were having dinner together and DD was happily stuffing it down. She loves food, we do BLW and just let her go for it. MIL was becoming increasingly anxious about the amount she was eating and saying things like "Is she ever going to stop?" and eventually "she'll end up 10 stone at this rate!". Her dinner was salmon, boiled potato, broccoli, cauliflower and carrots. Given that I only offer her healthy, nutrious food, AIBU to let her eat as much as she wants? I thought they self-regulated and I'm sure her proportions will change once she's mobile and grows taller. Or is MIL right and I should be limiting how much she eats at mealtimes?

It's brilliant that she's eating so well, let her carry on going for it. Most parents BLW worry that their babies aren't eating enough!
And babies are meant to be fat. They need that fat. They need fatty, stodgy, nutritious food. Don't worry about it, she sounds like she's doing fine.

I'd go for lighter passive-aggressive. Lots of laughing as if she's said something really funny, and some 'ooh, yes, 10 stone! Goodness, I can't imagine what she'll be like when she's an adult, isn't it a funny thought? But of course you're right, one day she probably will be 10 stone, and your height too ....'

Both mine were proper chubby babies (I didnt even realise until I looked back at pictures). It came off once they started crawling around.

My nan has made comments to my DCs before, as they are older and able to understand. Something about DD having a fat belly (she doesn't it's completely flat so it was a stupid thing to say anyway) and I had to say we don't comment on things like that and got a bit cross about it. She backtracked but it did piss me off because it wasn't even true and I do not want to give my children ideas about their bodies that may lead to issues later on.

I was quite thin as a child/teenager and forever received comments about it. I hated it. No different to being called fat and it left me with huge self esteem issues. Even as an adult people have said stuff. I am a size 10, 5'7 and was around 10 stone (bit less now). Perfectly healthy and not overly 'skinny' (hate that word). I noticed it was the bigger people who felt the need to comment negatively though. I hate this weight obsessed society and unless you have an obese child that is clearly unhealthy, a child's weight does not need to be commented on.

YANBU and she definitely is. Please ignore her.

Stop it immediately. Do whatever it takes. Stamp on the old witch if necessary. My mother was body shaming me only yesterday referring back to an incident in 1981 and drawing parallels with the present day, it is awful, it really is. I'm the wrong side of 50 and every word is still so hurtful.

Stamp on the old witch !
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DS was a gorgeous chubby baby , he didn't crawl til well after his first birthday , walked at about 18 months
Weighed more when he was 1 than he did at 2
Feed your baby your way
Bet she's gorgeous !

Your husband needs to nip this now... tell him he has to talk to her.

food is not a battleground in this house

I love this Mrs Terry Pratchett. It's simple and invites no argument. There can be no disagreeing and it can be repeated on numerous occasions if necessary.

Likewise Oysterbabe you could use something like 'we do not call people names in this house' 'we do not body shame in this house'. Or 'in our family' if away from the confines of your home.

I really like the Food is not a Battleground mantra. That's how I always wanted it to be with DD, I was determined to just give her food and either she'd eat it or she wouldn't, no fuss. I'm so pleased that she's doing well with the weaning that I was feeling really deflated with MIL putting a downer on it.

Ds was a very chubby baby, ate very well when we started weaning - did a mixture of purees and BLW style finger foods - isn't chubby at all now at three, and is tall for his age - we bought his nursery uniform in age 4-5yrs. All the chub has turned into height.

I second the comment about hoping it doesn't continue, I have a grandmother who did that. It potentially has a very long lasting effect.

My MIL was constantly going on about how chubby dd was when she was less than a year old. DD's grown up to be a beautifully proportioned young lady, lithe and slim, lovely. Ignore your mil, or just say "don't be silly, mil" with a big smile.

My PILs commented on DS's fatness as a baby - he turned into a slim toddler & MIL then announced that DH had done the same

They were particularly obsessed with whether or not he was having a pudding or not - they wanted him to have pudding as a meal isn't complete without it & phoned most days to enquire

I read the title as 'body slamming' and came onto do this face

Wow she'd have loved to watch my DD eat at that age then! What a ridiculous comment - she sounds like an absolute judgemental cunt. I have an aunt like that - her daughter is now in her mid twenties and her issues with food are painfully obvious

I'd ignore your MIL. Your DD sounds healthy and happy. They're usually quite chubby at that age until they start walking/running around.

How many people worry that their babies won't eat? She has a healthy appetite and will burn it off when she starts walking/running you rag less.

Tell MIL thank you kindly but professionals are happy but appreciate her input. Grandmas and their experience are good to have sometimes. Personally, I love cuddly babies.

Your MIL sounds dreadful just ignore her.

FWIW though she wasn't "body shaming" a 9 month old, just making irrational comments about her eating.

Please ignore your mil comments, once your DD becomes more active it will all level itself out. Most babies are a bit chubby I think until they become little more active

My ds has always been a very good eater, his now 13 months old and quite active he doesn't really stop,he still eats well today he had 2 weetabix at breakfast, 10am a banana, lunch of sandwich, cucumber and pepper sticks, few skips, he had a biscuit mid afternoon and still ate 1 salmon fishcake, mash and broccoli& cauliflower for dinner and a table spoon of Greek yoghurt after dinner. My ds is not overweight just eats well, takes after DH with his eating

Navy I don't think that's any excuse for stupid comments to be honest.

Just ignore comment op.

Once your DD becomes more active she will balance out