Yummy mummy, slummy mummy, dummy mummy

[Badbadtromance]

I've been friends with "a" for 15 years. She is a real middle class yummy mummy. I've always been jealous of her gorgeous blonde curls,super career,top of the class kids and large house. I have been desperate to be like her. Alas I am a working class slummy mummy,SP,kids average and poor.
She has only ever since invited my child to her house once and that was 10 years ago. Not sure what he could have done but none of us ever asked back. However over the years she has been to every one of my kids parties with her kids, often pops in to visit us too. The problem is last week was my youngest party. She came, brought no gift or card. I have MH problems and not sure if I feel used but can't see how as everyone thinks she is so nice, but this has got me thinking back over the years and she has never given anything or invited me to her house or out with her very nice friends. It's driving me nuts over thinking this, just not sure if I am being taken for a fool or not. Kids never invited to her kids parties either. I would never go to her with problems as not that kind of friendship. I just don't know if iabu or is it my mh

You slaaag

I hate slag too, having often been called it by my charming ex 😡

In some parts of the country any rude person is called a slag or cunt. Common in some London circles for example.

Lived in London my whole life and not once have I ever heard slag used with any other meaning other than in a derogatory way towards women.

I'd cool it off OP. She doesn't sound like a friend really. By the way, she is a human being just like you. Just because she's middle class doesn't mean you need to be grateful for her attention.

Sorry if I have unintentionally de-railed a post. I hope if people read my original post they will see that my concern and sympathy for the OP - which is what this thread should be about - is valid and genuine.
I am not a Londoner - a Northerner who grew up many years ago surrounded by slag heaps which lent their name perjoratively to people acting appallingly. I promise you I know no other meaning. But I do know what the C-word (she said modestly) means and I didn't consider my negative term was even in that league. And that appears daily on Mumsnet. Buy now! - stocks of judgy pants are selling fast.

Is it just me that sang 'purr, purr, purr' Sheldon style after reading the title of this thread?

Cunt is a gazillion times (approx) less offensive than slag.

Your post has been deleted though I see so all good now.

Brent is this you?

Fuckingbollocksbugger you're right you hold all knowlrdge about all London and I've never been to London in my life, clearly don't know what I'm on about

I don't like it either, but it didn't need a thread derail and insults, just a bit of common sense to think that perhaps Brentlicious didn't mean it in the same way as some posters view it. Think outside the box and all that!

Cool the friendship to sub zero temperatures.

Do it and don't look back.

Another thing, it's bloody horrible to listen to you compare yourself unfavourably with her. STOP IT. The more you do that the more you believe it.

Leave her wondering what's happened and if she asks them tell her and don't miss and hit the wall. Give her it straight

Cool the friendship. Take a very big step back.

I dislike the word "slag" but being Sarf London born and bred, I can tell you that "slaaag" can be used to describe a person who is generally taking the piss. Men will use it to describe other men and not in reference to their sexual history. So say if there's someone who never stands someone a drink, or owes you money with no attempt to pay back...he's a liberty taking slag.

Thank you Caipira and Finola1step. The voices of reason.
If anyone cares to tell me - without being patronising or graphic - what this bloody word really means, I undertake to only use it selectively in future.
And OP - lots of really good advice on here for you - hope it helps.

It means whore or slut. Like Finola1step I'm a saarf Londonder. Slag and slagging someone off was commonly used. Cunt is much much worse. No one ever used it unless they really hated someone and wanted to really insult them. I agree with you that it's odd to see it plastered all over MN like it's no big deal. Clearly there are pockets of the UK where the slag using, uncultured scum like us dwell

And OP Another thing, it's bloody horrible to listen to you compare yourself unfavourably with her. STOP IT. The more you do that the more you believe it.

This 100% this.