To ask why this guy seems terrified of me

[definetlynotbored]

So I met him at a training course that lasted several weeks. We got on great and he was pretty flirty (but he flirts with anything remotely attractive and under 40) so that means nothing.

Our group then decided to meet up outside of the training as we got on. Outside of training he seems terrified of me. He flirts with everyone but me and completely ignores me! I actually found him quite attractive but would never ever have flirted as at the time he had a girlfriend but I'm really worried he picked up on it so is keeping his distance now.

I'm not expecting anything with him but it would be nice to not be ignored and stared at in a grumpy way! I'm rubbish at psychology and don't really understand it as I've never done anything bad towards him and I've never been flirty back.

Whenever the night ends he will always be lovely and spend some time asking me to contact him if I need help with anything but thats only at the end.

No matter where I am he will walk to so he does like being around me but not actually speak to me.

He has me on social media but never contacts me.

He seems genuinely scared of me and avoids any eye contact. I'm not going to ask him whats up (well maybe if I get drunk I will haha). It's not really worth upsetting him and caushing more awkwardness within the group. Can anyone shed some light onto this situation please. I know you won't know but what seems to be going on here and any ideas on what I can do to put it right.

Just ask him.

'Hey, we got on well at the course and now you hardly speak to me. Why is that?'

He talks to me in a really unenthusiastic way and can make mean jokes at times.

what an arse.

He sounds like bit of a dick and a player as others have said! Have known guys like this before sadly. They thrive off the attention of females and playing them against each other it must be an insecurity thing. I used to go to this sport activity which consisted mainly of guys, me and one other girl. He continually heavy flirted with me (even though suspect he had a girlfriend anyway) then made a point of asking for the other girl's number in front of me while checking out my reaction. Zzzzzz! How tedious. No time for these men or boys would be more accurate. My advice would be completely ignore him where possible and polite work talk only when required. Don't let him even see it bothers you will just spur him on.

Sometimes when people are in a relationship I think they find it easier to have a laugh and flirt with everyone and know that they don't mean anything by it. But when they are single they are a bit more cautious to not give people the wrong idea - especially if they pick up that person might like them. It feels like the lights have gone out, but in the end its them trying not to lead someone on. Just enjoy the group and take your focus away from him- you might still be friends in the long run. But that means leaving behind your little shine for him.

He sounds more disinterested than terrified. Does it matter though? He sounds like a knob anyway, whatever his reasons for flirting with everyone but you.