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Original poster

Well, am I ?

27 replies

wouldyoumind · 06/02/2007 11:59

I haven't been unreasonable with anyone just wanted mn opinion.

I have a regular babysitter who is lovely and whom ds adores. But i've noticed she is using the pc, which whilst I don't mind, it would have been nice to have been asked first. afaik, she isn't using it for anything illegal but it has irritated me a little. I turned the pc right off yesterday but it appears it's been used.

Would this annoy you or not? tbh, when I was her age I may well have done the same, if i'd known how to use a pc back then!

I haven't said anything to her btw.

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wurlywurly · 06/02/2007 12:03

i agree it would have been polite for her to ask you first,

Oati · 06/02/2007 12:03

password protect it

foxtrot · 06/02/2007 12:05

She should ask first. Maybe next time you could offer it to her, maybe she is a bit shy to ask, or considers it a normal thing to do nowadays, like switching on the TV?

saltire · 06/02/2007 12:06

Sorry may be a bit thick here, but surely you need a password to get onto a PC - at least ours does, so Dses or mindees can't just sit down in front of it and goggle.
She really should have asked

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wouldyoumind · 06/02/2007 12:08

that had crossed my mind foxtrot about it just being the norm. I don't want to embarrass her but did think I should say something. I assume it's easy to password protect?

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wouldyoumind · 06/02/2007 12:10

You just log straight on, i'll change it, so you can't.

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wouldyoumind · 06/02/2007 12:17

I've tried removing the passwords etc but she'd still be able to log on as another user I think and use msn? What would you say?

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CountessDracula · 06/02/2007 12:18

I think you are being unreasonable

She doesn't have to ask if she can use the tv, what is the difference? (unless you are on dial up and have to pay extra for it, which I bet you are not)

Why has it irritated you?

RubyRioja · 06/02/2007 12:21

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wouldyoumind · 06/02/2007 12:23

fair comment CD, that is why I asked?!

I suppose it's a privacy issue more than anything. She could, if she had a mind too, which i'm sure she doesn't, come on here and look at threads i'm on for example. It's that more than anything. Not that I have anything to be ashamed or embarrassed about.

I'll just forget about it, thanks.

If I tidied up this hovel in here, I may not have such an issue. As it is, she is surrounded by mountains of crap

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Polgara2 · 06/02/2007 12:39

I thnk its cheeky too, it's not the same as switching the TV on at all imo. Would never expect anyone to use my pc without my consent nor would I expect to use anyone elses. Privacy, downloading, breaking even all spring to mind.

Aderyn · 06/02/2007 12:47

It would irritate me. I don't see it as being the same as a TV because a PC could have confidential files on it. I wouldn't want just anyone logging onto mine. If they asked in advance then I'd set up a different profile for them.

brandy7 · 06/02/2007 12:49

id be worried about the privacy issue, she could read your emails or nose at anything really. tell her its broke and take the fuse out of the plug

CountessDracula · 06/02/2007 12:51

oh well I guess I don't have anything very private on my pc so it wouldn't bother me

(apart from my collection of photos of dildos)

Aderyn · 06/02/2007 12:52

Someone could pose as you under your MN nickname?

itsmeNDP · 06/02/2007 12:53

I would have expected them to check with me first. They would have to anyway as all our PC's are password protected and so you cannot get further than the Windows XP log in screen without the correct password

poppiesinaline · 06/02/2007 12:54

Is she doing this while she is meant to be minding your dcs or are they in bed?

I agree. PC is private. And how would you feel if it turns out she had been looking at stuff she shouldn't have been and her parents come knocking on your door. How old is she?

brimfull · 06/02/2007 12:56

CD -lol

gingermonkey · 06/02/2007 13:10

No. It's rude to not ask to use anything first (and for all she knows you might have some very private pictures on your PC, IYKWIM!!! )

brandy7 · 06/02/2007 14:31

pmsl at the dildos CD!

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wouldyoumind · 06/02/2007 15:16

She's 21. I wouldn't like her reading my emails, not that there's much to hide but ykwim. I don't think she would. The only thing I know she's used is google and hotmail, oh and last night Ann Summer but the web address is wrong so I don't know if she got in [hmm}

Oh I dunno, may as well password protect. Anyone got an idiot guide? I suppose all I need to do is stop her logging onto broadband, don't I?

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wouldyoumind · 06/02/2007 15:17

She'd still be able to get into my emails though, wouldn't she?

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MissGolightly · 06/02/2007 15:25

Agree she should have asked; what if she'd accidentally given your computer a virus or something?

Easiest thing would be to just say "I notice you used the computer, that's fine but could you check in future"! But if that doesn't appeal you should be able to set it up so you need a password to start the computer at all. I think for Windows you do it via the control panel, it depends what version you've got but there should be something on the control panel about setting passwords on user accounts.

Bowbelles · 06/02/2007 15:36

I think it's rude, she should've checked with you first. Has she read your emails? Would you be happy for her to sift through your paper post?
I'd password protect it, but if your happy for her to use it that's fine, but I still think she should've asked out of politeness.

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wouldyoumind · 06/02/2007 16:06

I've password protected it now, thanks MissG. I won't have to mention it now. One thing that's happened since last night though, as the pc was switched off when I came home, is now Norton 'parental control' now downloads . Do you thin she has inadvertently re-set something?

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