to think you don't text people when you'd expect them to be asleep?

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I have terrible insomnia and have been awake since 3am . I was actually just drifting back to sleep at 5am when I received a text from a friend!! So that's me woken up for the day. I can't think why you would do that?

I turn my mobile off at night. If there's a family emergency they'll call the landline.

I turn my phone off at night.

Thought this is normal. But you can also have it on airplane or night mode.

I prefer airplane mode to do not disburb or silent, because I like to have my phone in my bedroom as my back-up alarm, but don't want all the signals there by my head all night (I know, almost certainly ridiculous, but I do it nonetheless). I had the app on my phone that supposedly wakes you up at a good time for your sleep cycle (not convinced it actually helped though, and even less so now that it's changed from being under your sheet and measuring your movements, to being on the table beside you and measuring noise). But I'm such a non-morning person that I'll try anything, and that means the phone has to be there next to me. Plus on days when I can sleep in a bit, I like to have it there to check when I first wake up, then can go back to dozing a bit. So I put it on airplane for the night and turn it back on in the morning when I check it.

Yeah ok to text at any time.

Waking hours is pretty subjective really. I'm asleep at 9 and up at 5... Others go to sleep at 1 and then up at 1. No one would ever text if we went by waking hours.

Another one who turns off phone at night and has it in different room.

It's easy to switch off electric doorbells.

I guess it's totally find to just drop by someone's house at 4am if you happen to be passing and have some piece of tedium youbfeel like unloading right at that moment.

No, people who don't take steps to protect themselves from antisocial wankers only have themselves to blame.

I remember that thread alors (I've name changed since then) - a few people piped up that they don't have phones which can do all those fancy things, but I'm not sure what the response to that point was. It may just have been ignored.

I see the point about the theatre and meetings - it's true you can never be absolutely sure it's ok to text or phone - but statistically it's likely that many people will be asleep in the middle of the night.

I think the answer would be - only text in the middle of the night if you know someone does DND, or ring twice, or whatever.

If you have a smartphone does it do timedsend, so you that you can advance time texts to send at, say, 8am (maybe later on Sat and Sun!)?

I think most phones have a function where you can set texts, emails etc to go silent whilst still allowing all calls or just contacts from certain numbers to come through. Have a search on your phone model and see what is says, I set mine up on my Moto G and helped friends do it on their different phones too. I have it silent except for calls between 10pm and 8am. Alarms should always sound.

It is completely accepted as 'normal' by most people that you switch your phone to DND at night.

The whole point of texting is you can send and receive at leisure.

I would like the option of leaving my notifications to daytime settings and not having some clueless, antisocial wanker start 3am texting because nobody ever taught them there are other things in the world irher than them and their bullshit

Wow what vitriol towards someone who is supposed to be your friend. not very nice attitude towards friends!

My potential emergency callers would always phone me on the mobile and that's the way I want it - so that they can get me if I'm not at home (on holiday, away for work etc).

Also, I wouldn't want to say to a dparent 'if it's an emergency in the middle of the night please call my landline rather than my mobile, but during the day please phone my mobile'. Because in a real emergency i want to keep it as simple as possible for them to contact me and it's not always easy for people to remember complicated instructions in an urgent situation. (and for some, eg elderly dparents, that would be a complicated instruction to remember in an emergency)

I am quite invested in this thread - possibly because I absolutely hate being woken up and often find it hard to get back to sleep!

My phone is set (at any time) to vibrate when it's ringing and make no notification (other than the text appearing on the screen) when I get a text. So I'll just get texts when I look at my phone... no issue!

I remember when I was a new teacher the TA I was working with went ballistic because I sent her a text at 10pm on a Sat night and it woke her up. it was work related, but not giving her a task just telling her something I was thinking of doing with the kids the following week. we were friends (so I thought) and text each other often prior to that. She absolutely tore into me on the Monday and made me cry (I was young and overwhelmed by the new job!) I've never forgotten it and since then I don't send texts when people might be sleeping.... So you are not the only one that thinks this is unacceptable OP!

Yanbu. Maybe I'm just old but I treat texts as I do phone calls. I would not send a text between 9pm and 8am unless urgent - there are obviously exceptions to this such as my immediate family and close friends whose waking habits I know.

Can people not make a mental (or paper) note to send the text at a more appropriate time? My phone is by my bed on silent btw.

I work night shift so it's normally late at night when I have something to say to someone. I've never been told I'm disturbing someone or to not text between certain hours, and I keep my phone on silent when I'm sleeping so it's not an issue for me either

But user and yello (only because you're the most recent posters, I realise lots of other people have said the same!), my phone does not do selective DND.

I may be in a very small minority of people who do not use a fancy phone, of course, but what's the answer for those of us who love our £10 phones, but need to be contactable on our mobiles at night in emergencies?

The vitriol is only reserved for knobheads who expect other people to have to soend time protecting themselves from their selfish twattiness.

I am not friends with cunts like that.

I have hundreds of contacts on my phone, many of whom might have need of me at antisocial hours.

Any stupid fucker sending chatty texts un yhe middle of the night, who is most likely to be someone who needs my phone number more than I need theirs, would be blocked immediately.

Not accepted by non-twats.

Oh come on, at the very least it must be clear from the number of people posting here that lots of people understand texts to be not an instant communication method but as a way of leaving a message to be read at the receiver's convenience. Given that that is a common view, you don't have to be a "twat" not to think about whether it's going to be a good time for the other person to receive a text.

sorry yabu

as many others I also use my phone as alarm clock and put it on silent in the night.
I receive many texts from my bank, phone company, delivery services at ungodly hours...

As PP have said, you can have your phone on Do Not Disturb, but set it to allow 'loud' calls from favourite numbers, or if someone rings again within 3 minutes.
I always have my phone in my room as an alarm, but use the DND feature.

I've explained why I have the phone in my room ... no landline handset upstairs and I want it near me incase of emergencies. Especially as I am very often alone in the house all night with the children (as I was last night in fact). Having my phone in the bedroom has no affect whatsoever on my insomnia, I've been suffering with it for 15 years.

Actually I think it may vary between social circles. Interestingly, I think no one has ever sent me a text in the middle of the night - though some have perhaps been a bit early for my liking on a Sunday morning! So maybe the people in my 'social environs' don't do the complicated DND thing as a matter of course.

Where it's normal to text in the middle of the night, it may be because everyone in that social group is very tech, so it's reasonable to assume that they will all have whatever DNDs they need.

The problem arises when you apply that reasoning to people who are less techno!

I have insomnia.

I also have my phone by my bed and I don't have it on silent. I have it by my bed because I use it for my alarm clock and I'm fine with getting messages at any time of night.

I am 'lucky' that my insomnia means it takes me hours to fall asleep but once I'm asleep I'm fine.

It's fine to text at any time of day/night.

Like a number of others, I can't set my phone to DND overnight - I need to be able to answer calls if it's an emergency. I also need to be able to answer texts in an emergency. And no, I can't set it up to have only certain numbers come through, because often the emergency call will be from a hospital or similarly number withheld number.

Given that I'm likely to be disturbed for genuine emergency calls, and given that I have to assume any call or text at that time is an emergency, so must be read immediately, yes, I get a little tetchy when people text me for no good reason at silly o'clock in the morning.

Thankfully, I have decent friends, and once I point this out to them, they usually stop. I have had to ask one particular friend to please try to remember I go to bed significantly earlier than she does though.

If I want to leave a message rather than get an instant response I'll either email or more likely Facebook message someone - it'll still be there ready to be picked up when they next look st their phone, but won't ping ping through an emergency.

BTW I can't have it on silent because what if a relative needs me during the night in an emergency and I didn't realise because my phone was on silent?