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To expect DH to tidy DD's room at night properly?

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LowFatMilkshake · 05/02/2007 21:16

I think I know I am going to sound anal before I even start - but hey it'll give you someone to laugh at!

Okay so DD(3) had a temperature this afternoon and went for a 2 hour nap - which she doesnt normally have, and thankfully woke up much better! However we are paying for this tonight because for a child who normally drops off by 7pm, she is still wide awake and playing in her room.

Around 8.15pm she called DH upstairs to help her tidy. While I was doing laundry and seeing to DS.

She has lots of different containers in her room:
a pop-up bin for cuddly toys
a basket for brand name plastics 'my little ponies' littlest petshop etc
a hamper for little people
a bigger hamper for dress-up
a closing lid box for misc toys
It helps her tidy and makes things more intersting etc.

However I have just been up to give her a dose of cough syrup and was horrified to see all the toys mixed up in thier various containers and mountain of toys that DH obviously could'nt fit anywhere else stacked up beside the toybox

Now tomorrow I am going to have to have all these out and re-sort them otherwise I'll never stop getinh "where's this mummy, where's that mummy"!

Is it me?

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sandcastles · 05/02/2007 21:21

I'd be annoyed too, my dh does exactly the same. Shoves anything & everything anywhere. Then if there is no more room in the toyboxes he will shove it in a corner. BUT if only he packed it away properly, it would all fit!

That's why I don't let dh tidy the room.

Original poster
LowFatMilkshake · 05/02/2007 21:22

Exactly - if he put it away properly it would have all fit!

And yesterday whe his parents visited he had the cheek to comaplin that he wanted her room to look nice for them!

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marymillington · 05/02/2007 21:23

Think yourself lucky

When DH does bedtime he forgets to empty and clean the bath and leaves the soggy nappy and dirty clothes on the bathroom floor.

Is otherwise wonderful in all ways though

Original poster
LowFatMilkshake · 05/02/2007 21:26

This is what stops me complaining to him!

He's great at bathing and sterilising and washing up and everything else, it's just the tidying - his idea of tidying is to clear the general space and make a pile of everything in one spot, leaving us to hunt through to find what we need

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lulumama · 05/02/2007 21:29

wow ! i don;t think DH knows where DD;s room is !

if he does loads of other stuff, then i wouldn;t bother getting cross....i;d do it myself and save the energy i would have wasted getting cross !!!

clairemow · 05/02/2007 21:29

mary millington, do we have the same DH? Sounds like it....

oliveoil · 05/02/2007 21:32

How is you supposed to know where everything goes fgs?

They are toys, not Top Secret documents to be filed alphabetically.

You are most definitely being unreasonable.

Tip them all out tomorrow and sort them with dd, she will love it, mine do.

oliveoil · 05/02/2007 21:33

How is he I mean.

Original poster
LowFatMilkshake · 05/02/2007 21:35

Oliveoil - he is supposed to know where they all go as it was him who insisted on getting all the bloody boxes etc so she could keep her room tidy (for when his flipping parents come)!

But yes - we now have a planned mother-daughter bonding session tomorrow!

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dmo · 05/02/2007 21:45

can i swop
dh is so tidy its annoying espeally as my filing cabinet is under the cushions on the sofa and dh comes along and files them away in the proper cabinet
i am a childminder and when dh comes home there are toys everywhere and dh is following the children round tidying up behind them
mess is good
cant complain thought as i am now sat in bed on the laptop dh is cleaning the bathroom and running me a bath bless

MusicLover · 05/02/2007 21:49

Dh actually tidies up better than me

lalaland3008 · 22/05/2012 16:21

YANBU but dp is just the same. When he tidies the toys never go in their correct place. When he does bathtime the wet toys are always left in the bath, the toothbrush chucked in the sink, a wet towel and dirty clothes on the floor. He also doesn't wash up properly and just generally gets in the way haha. I tolerate him because he's generally a good guy.

lalaland3008 · 22/05/2012 16:23

Oh and by the way I had an ex dp who was annoyingly ocd abou being tidy and that's worse. We had to wash up BEFORE we ate meaning tea went cold. I wasn't allowed to leave so much as a pen out of place or sit on the bed after it was made. I keep my messy dp over him anyday.

LindyHemming · 22/05/2012 17:06

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LeeCoakley · 22/05/2012 17:11

But women can tell the the difference between Polly Pocket and Playmobil characters, men can't. It's a gift we have.

Convert · 22/05/2012 17:11

I don't actually let anyone else tidy the toys away because they all have to be in the right place! I feel your pain.

Mrsjay · 22/05/2012 17:15

Does he really know where all the toys go you do sounds a teeny bit anal about this Grin so they were not in the right boxes your DD is feeling iffy and your DH doesnt know his my little from his littliest pet shop , sort it out and relax it really is just toys life is far to short to be worrying about it Smile

RandomNumbers · 22/05/2012 17:49

Zombie thread

Why restart after 5 yrs, count em on yer fingers if you like

AdoraBell · 22/05/2012 17:59

Erm, you said he tidied the toys.

Is the floor dangerously strewn with toys, or did I miss something in the OP?

Margerykemp · 22/05/2012 22:34

You need to take a chill pill.

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