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To ask about a time when you've really lost your shit?

74 replies

DreamCloud99 · 26/09/2016 19:57

Twins are driving.me.to.madness!

They are ignoring me constantly

I shouted . Really shouted .

I've removed their favourite game for a week (heat of the moment OTT reaction ) so they both cried .

But bloody hell I'm sick of the sound of my own voice repeating myself !

Tell me a time you've lost the plot with your kids to make me feel better .....

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Niggit · 26/09/2016 20:45

When I was trying to get them to quieten down at the dinner table so DH and I could hear ourselves think. In the end I grabbed the (empty) wine bottle and threw it at the wall... The bottle didn't break, but it did leave a fair old ding in the plaster, which my DCs delighted in pointing out to everybody who came round.

SatsukiKusakabe · 26/09/2016 20:48

The other morning, we were getting ready for school and they were both constantly yelling for my attention. I was just on my way upstairs to get something when there was one "Mummy!" Too many at the wrong moment and I turned and whacked my head on the stair rail.

I shouted at them to just bloody leave me alone for once, then barked orders at them until we all got out the door.

At which point I apologised and said hurting my head made me cross and it wasn't their fault, but could they please not yell at me when I'm in the middle of something else as it's distracting and wait until we're all together to talk. The kids and I are ok, but I am still a bit annoyed with the bannister

oldlaundbooth · 26/09/2016 20:55

So it's not just me?

Nobody's kids listen to them?

user1473454752 · 26/09/2016 20:56

oldlaundbooth, probably not!!!! lol

Sallycinnamum · 26/09/2016 21:01

I once threw that fucking Confused.com robot so hard on the floor after my two DC were mucking about refusing to clear up their toys, it's head broke off.

I still feel terrible about it now. Very occasionally I feel like my DC have broken me. A bit like Colin the Robot really.

LaLaLolly · 26/09/2016 21:05

I remember a MNer (I think she was from NZ), who was speaking with her preteen and he was giving her horrible attitude... eventually he grabbed his Playstation microphone/headphones and said to his friend that his Mum was being a bitch.

She saw red. Picked up the playstation and flung it out of the window.

She sounded so lovely and was completely mortified, questioning herself and feeling terrible. I thought she was perfectly justified!

LBOCS2 · 26/09/2016 21:09

I remember that Lala, it was fabulous - just a fantastic example of not pushing your mum too far or she will in fact fling your Xbox out of the window.

It was a whole thread of people going 'nope, perfectly justified'. Amazing.

HighwayDragon1 · 26/09/2016 21:13

When XP brought dd home on an old booster cushion, when she was 2 years old, in a sports car with his mate. I lost my shit. Bigtime. Full on yelling at him while his mate was sinking lower and lower into the seat he was in.

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 26/09/2016 21:14

I very very nearly set my PFB on fire once when he ignored me once too often. He was about 17 at the time I think, and he never did it again.

Shadow1986 · 26/09/2016 21:20

Last time I lost my shit? Tonight, putting my twins to bed...I can see a pattern here!! They are 4.

mailfuckoff · 26/09/2016 21:22

Another mum of twins - they are 7 and spend their lives ignoring me. I lost it on Saturday when they threw a shoe at my head whilst I was driving then laughed when told off. i havent been that cross for ages but if anyone has got any ideas how I can get my boys to listen to me without having to reduce them to tears I would like to know.

KatieScarlett · 26/09/2016 21:32

About 10 years ago I was patiently queuing for a parking space, had bee waiting for about 20 mins when the next one came free.
Was just about to pull in when a bloke in a van came screaming up the wrong side of the road, overtook the queue and took the space.
I abandoned my car, marched up to the guy giving abuse like I've never done before. Bad bad words. I then followed him as he was trying to escape the madwoman, continuing my tirade. Eventually I returned to my car (to great applause from the other drivers).
Then I burst into tears, it was all a bit too much really and very fucking stupid.

mrscee · 26/09/2016 21:32

I also have twins mine are 6 and I regularly lose my shit, they don't listen to me and I find myself shouting at them just to get them to get ready for school etc!

RandomMess · 26/09/2016 21:38

DD 12/13 dyed her hair black in our brand new white bathroom. There was history:

She had been told she was banned fro dying her hair in our home (any colour she wanted but not to do it at home)

She then spray dyed it red, red film everywhere. Explained to her this is why it was banned.

After saving for YEARS we redid the bathroom

It was weeks old, it had black hair dye on EVERY wall

She ended up moving out to live with her Dad not long after

BigSandyBalls2015 · 26/09/2016 21:50

15 year old twins here and I still lose my shit with them rather regularly about all manner of things.

An example was on Sat when DD was rummaging through my wine rack.

Me: what are you doing?
DD: this party tonight, thought I'd take some fizz, got any champagne?
Me: you're fecking 15, you'll be lucky to take a couple of little beers

Oh and they both still arse about when they're supposed to be going to bed .... that doesn't improve, sorry!!

thissismyusername · 26/09/2016 21:51

When DS was about 17 and was grown up enough to have wine with dinner and drink when out with his friends.

I was out late after a very long hard day at work, and then a uni lecture, so he had made himself dinner, on my way home was so looking forward to that glass of red wine I knew was in the bottle waiting for me. Can you guess the rest?

Got home, no wine. I went absolutely mental and stormed out to nearest pub to drink alone. Apologised later, but I still recall with terrible guilt and embarrassment.

StarryIllusion · 26/09/2016 21:57

Not my kids but I absolutely lost my shit with my sister's two girls when they were about 10 and 8. They had been vile, absolutely vile all day, everyone had just had it with them and the elder wanted something, can't remember what it was, but it was expensive, money was tight and my sis said no. Elder turned round and said "Don't know why I bother asking you for anything decent, all I ever get is cheap shit." Sis burst into tears and I blew my lid at her. I called her a nasty, spiteful, ungrateful little brat and told her she didn't deserve anything, cheap or otherwise and to get the fuck out of my sight before I lamped her one. She stormed off in tears to her bedroom, the 8 year old promptly cuddled her mum and said sorry. The only one I apologised to was the dog who had crawled over to me on her belly and sat on my foot. Poor little cow, she doesn't like shouting.

Kids can be bloody awful op, don't feel bad. My 2 year old DS makes me want to strangle him some days. Everyone loses it at their kids at some point. Any healthy relationship needs an outlet for frustration and it isn't like you can easily talk through problems with children. Sometimes you lose control. Just draw a line under it and don't dwell.

SistersOfPercy · 27/09/2016 11:45

I find I lost my shit more when they got older tbh.

Sundays example. Dh and I had been out at an event all day leaving 18 and 23 year old DC's at home. I knew we'd be back late, so put a meal in the slow cooker knowing I'd just have to cook a few spuds and thicken the stock when I got home. Simple.

Got home at 7.30pm. DD had taken over our very small kitchen to cook her and her BF a meal. I couldn't get near the sink, there was food bits everywhere. Our kitchen is tiny and her and her BF were stood there. Meanwhile, DS has had pizza, I know this because the box is on the worktop. The living room looks like a bomb has hit it and clearly both have done fuck all for the day.

I manage to get into the kitchen to thicken my stock. I leave the utensils I'm using on top of the slow cooker. I come back into the kitchen and they are now covered in whatever crap DD is cooking and put back. DD then reappears and tells me I have to go because there isn't room and she needs to cook. Meanwhile, DH is sat tapping away at his computer doing fuck all.

I got into the hall and went full on fishwife. I told DD she'd had all day to play bloody masterchef so why do it knowing we were coming in from a long day and needed to eat. DS got it as well, he couldn't tidy up to save his life. I pointed out the last time either of them touched the hoover was when they fell into it coming home drunk.
4 sodding adults in a house and only one of them washes, cooks, cleans and irons. I'd had enough.

4 very startled faces stared at me as I stomped upstairs to bed.
Will things change? Who knows, they certainly have temporarily. Time will tell. I don't explode that often so I think I shocked the lot of em

StrawberryQuik · 27/09/2016 11:52

Not yet at DS...he's only 5.5 months!

When towards the end of my gap year (so skint and tired) I got sold tickets for a Rome-Milan train that didn't exist...
I did full on 'mamma Mia' arm wavy shouting and got upgraded to a TGV.

BiddyPop · 27/09/2016 11:57

I screamed like a fishwife at DF once - on holidays he paid for, in front of most of my family early in the morning. Much much stress at home and work, and to do with holidays and he accused me of being rude when he had shifted pre-agreed things around at the last minute and had been extremely rude himself. And there were extenuating factors with certain DSibs being 2-faced and painting me in a very poor light and completely misrepresenting the situation (as others who heard what was said pointed out the truth!).

I actually f'd and blinded him - and we never ever used bad language in his presence (I am in my 40s). Then burst into tears and was ushered up to DM to be mopped up while DF just slunk away astonished (I used to be the "stroppy" one as a teenager, but have been the organized, calm, responsible one for many, many years in the family). The rest of the DSibs all vanished to the other house (2 minutes walk away at the end of the lane).

We all calmed down, we all apologized, and we all got on with the holiday.

LittleMissUpset · 27/09/2016 12:02

Last night at DS1 who is 10 and possibly on the autism spectrum, we are being assessed. He just doesn't know when to stop, and is being very rude to me. Last night he was shouting at me and saying awful things, and laughing at me.

I told him he won't be going on his Xbox until he behaves, and when FIFA 17 arrives this week he won't be playing on it unless he starts behaving.

DS2 tests my patience too, but doesn't push it nearly as far, though they do play off each other.

I tell them I love them all the time, but that I will not put up with the behavior. DS1 said some kids are allowed to do whatever they want, why am I so horrible etc etc.

FlyingElbows · 27/09/2016 12:13

At the weekend. Mr Elbows and eldest Elbows son are really butting off each other just now (like fucking tiresome stags). Elbows son needed bunk beds removing from his room so was sent off to tidy in preparation. He's a dramatic little pain who needs careful handling but is compliant with the right direction. Mr Elbows refuses to direct and is always angling for a fight with the justification that he just had to do what he was to what he was told. Yes, because I haven't fucking tried that! Anyway... chippy fighting ensues and I lost it in spectacular style. I'd have made a great channel 5 documentary "when wives lose their shit"!! Both stags got sent away from me and I was not kind about it and I proceeded to take the bed to bits myself and throw it down the stairs!! Actually mental. I'm not proud in the slightest but in all honesty the never ending locking of horns is really dragging me down at what is a really not very easy time anyway. But the upside is the bed is gone and I got loads of rubbish thrown out in my whirlwind of fury.

Willow2016 · 27/09/2016 13:13

Oh God pick a week any week...I have 14yr old and 11yr old ... surprised they have lasted this long tbh.

Ezzie29 · 27/09/2016 13:14

I don't have kids yet but my sister and I were not amazing daughters when we were young so my mum lost her shit a fair few times, we would push and push until it got too much and she would explode. At the time I felt so hard done by, now I'm older I'm amazed she didn't lose it more!

Mol1628 · 27/09/2016 13:20

Daily with 1yo and 3yo

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