To ask for revenge ideas on the sodding students next door

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At the end of my tether. Group of students have just moved into the terraced house next door, and had a 21st birthday last night. It was ludicrous, music pounding until 3am when the police finally shut them down. Desperate requests for the music to be turned down (not off...) at 8pm and midnight were met with serious attitudes and an expectation that as it was a birthday party we should just deal with it ("it's not Sen midnight...!"). The London council in charge of the borough has helpfully closed down their noise officer service, and as we're London we're bottom of the list for the police. So basically we're stuck. Begging them to turn it down so our two year old could get some sleep didn't work as they literally told me that they couldn't imagine what it'd be like to be a parent, it must be hard etc.

So here's the rub. Their landlord is gong to have a word but I'm not sure what he can do. The authorities won't help. So I suspect we're in for an academic year of misery, what would you do?

So when I was living in a student house we had families either side. We were a very quiet house, as we were all mature nursing students.
You know who wasn't quiet? Both of the families next door, who we had to endure tantrums and arguements from night and day (apparently their kids could never sleep through). It was one party. I'm sure the next year listening to your precious child will be punishment enough.

people are entitled to have parties

And people are entitled to have some peace and quiet.
Which one trumps the other?

the revenge suggestions are just jokes, no one is really suggesting following these. People who are attacking the op should remember she is tired, she was up until 3am and probably awake again by 6am

Which one trumps the other?

Well as it's quiet essentially nearly every other night, bar NYE, fireworks in November, etc it doesn't have to be either or, but I don't see an issue with one noisy night, especially when you start complaining at 8pm which is early if you were gonna go out drinking later

Headofthehive55

I don't hate students, I seriously dislike those that think their right to play stupidly loud music anytime they like to the detriment of others.

Phalenopsisgirl

As students we had a party for for about 36 hours before the finals of the arseholes that didn't give a shit about when we had to take our exams. I have no idea if they failed or not.

I don't think anyone is 'entitled' to hold a party and I'm sorry you had a bad night op. However I have both students and a young family for neighbours and guess who makes the most noise?

I agree with cardibach about the depressing lack of tolerance, not just to students but towards anyone who doesn't fall into the standard mumsnet demographic.

I don't think a lack of tolerance against people playing music at excessive volumes is "depressing". It's perfectly reasonable to be intolerant of thoughtless, selfish, inconsiderate behaviour that negatively affects other people.

what toastdemon said

I'd rather live next door to the odd noisy party than to someone who thinks it's ok to put shit through people's letterboxes.

I would say, that whatever you throw at them in revenge, they'll probably en able to do worse, with less maturity... We've had egged Windows!

So you can be perfectly reasonable but they're scum if you want to take one night to enjoy yourself, when lets face next door to a two year old they probably get disturbed every night, I know I do by my next door neighbours child

Perfectly reasonable 364 days a year but you're essentially scum if you enjoy yourself for 1 night *

i agree that as its a 21st these are probably 3rd years who will be knuckling down for the rest of the year, probably wanted a last hurrah before then.

And if your child keeps them up all night before one of their finals - well, let's hope they don't have your attitude towards the odd bad night thanks to neighbours.

Chances are you'll disturb them way more than they disturb you. No-ones fault, it's just how it is - they're students, you're a parent to a small child. They didn't ask for you as a neighbour just as you didn't ask for them.

It's the lack of consideration for others that is evident is some many other areas of life too. From playing music on your mobile phone, parking like a dick to playing noisy games on phones and tablets in public areas.

Parents and kids can do those things too, though, Desolate, I would say just as much as young adults.

And speaking as a parent, there's probably not much that's more inconsiderate, in many ways, than having a child!

I once took DS2 to a play date at someone's house. The mother was going on and on about her neighbours and their awful, relentless music. I said "is it really bad then?" To which she replied in an exasperated tone "Can't you hear it?". I didn't go there again.

It's the lack of consideration for others that is evident is some many other areas of life too. From playing music on your mobile phone, parking like a dick to playing noisy games on phones and tablets in public areas.

But that's not just students. parents of two year olds do it as well, Peppa pig on portable devices without earphones, children screaming at the cinema etc, everyone makes noise sometimes and expects people to be tolerant but at the first sign of someone else making noise and the intolerance is quick to show

Parents and kids can do those things too, though, Desolate, I would say just as much as young adults.

That's what I mean though. The worst offenders for noisy apps in places like restaurants etc are parents with children. Everyone is capable of being a noisy bellend it's just that some people consider others before they do so.

I know! Children can be so noisy. I would imagine the one with the two year old is on average the most noisy. Mums tune out a bit to to others it's awful.

So unless you can guarantee absolute silence op, Maybe hold back. .

Oh, sorry! Yes, I see (and know!) what you mean. I was once in a pub and a man started playing on a wooden flute to his child. Who was crawling around the floor just outside the gents. I'm afraid I may have said really quite a lot on that occasion...

2 year olds being noisy and grown adults being noisy aren't even vaguely the same thing.

I don't even have a toddler and I know that

In the early morning, fill up a wheelie bin with water and then lean it against their front door (put something underneath the bin to keep it leaning against the door).

A 2 year old making 2 year old noises is one things. They can't help that, it's what they do.

A 5 year old playing a game or watching a program on a tablet with the volume full up in a restaurant is the act of an inconsiderate cock.

• doing that would be really ott for one noisy party though.

Wondering if this thread might have had different suggestions if there had been no mention of 'students' or 'two-year-olds.'

It can be great fun to concoct revenge fantasies, and some are certainly creative. It can also seem a great idea to pass the problem to outside authorities (who, one hopes, have magical powers to solve all problems). And best of all, it's great to imagine we are always entitled to something, and always right.

But basically we have neighbours with differing lives and objectives. Surely the first step should be an unemotional, open-minded conversation?