Sister has forgotten my birthday. Am I being a drama queen?

[PickledCauliflower]

Older sister is the only relative I have any contact with. She 53 - I am 48.

Our family life was very dysfunctional. Mother (who was very cold) is now dead, no contact with violent father for last 27 years. Brother very much like him - we both have had no contact with him for years either.

We are pretty close really. We are very different in so many ways, but generally get on. We always do something nice for each other's birthdays.

No contact from her today, no birthday card or mention of my birthday.
She is on holiday at the moment abroad, but she has been messaging me on whatsapp to tell me what the weather is like, etc. Last message was yesterday.
She did not mention my birthday before she went away last week. I was expecting her to give me my card early and suggest we meet up when she returns.

She has forgotten, but I don't understand how? I could never forget her birthday - holidays or not.
My husband asked me today if we had a fall out or something, he couldn't understand how she could just forget.

I'm gutted over it. It makes me feel like she doesn't care a jot about me, to not acknowledge it at all.
Am I being dramatic over this?

Worraliberty

I am sure you have both been forgiven! How sweet of her to not want to remind you that you had forgotten.
I wish I was so graceful :) x

Yeah I wish I was too!

It's my birthday today too, spent it alone with my 5 week old baby, DH came home from a stag do about an hour ago, puked in our bedroom, watched me clean it up while the baby screamed, tried to kiss me goodnight and when I refused as he'd just been sick, he replied with "fuck you" and crawled off up to the attic.
I did get a text from my sister though so I guess that's something.

Happy Birthday Pickledcauliflower, Birthday twin!

Happy Birthday Mamatallica x
Congratulations on your baby too - so sorry to hear of your arse of a DH.
Hope the twat has the hangover from hell tomorrow and you can get revenge on him somehow.

x

My mum forgot my birthday earlier this week (she's 82) and sent me a card with the message"I didn't forget YOU,just forgot the date" , it made me feel a whole lot better
Try to think of it like that

It's a bit upsetting yes but she won't of meant it, like everyone has said she's on holiday and will not be thinking about the date . I nearly forgot my mums birthday last year, Id remembered as normal about 3 weeks before and planned to get a present and then got busy and oy remembered 2 days before. Felt a bit bad as all I had time to do was send flowers which wasn't that thoughtful. Happy birthday by the way xxx

Thanks Pickledcauliflower, just having that bit of a moan has made me feel better tbh. He's not usually that bad, he's not used to drinking much anymore so it's obviously gone to his head. He did say he didn't want to go in the first place. He's working tomorrow so I won't have to look at him. As long as he's safe to drive (he's not in til 10, should be fine) I hope he has a banging headache all day.
I agree with previous posters about your sister, on holiday the days have no meaning, I'm sure she just forgot the date. You can make her feel a bit guilty when she gets back and she might treat you A belated birthday can be extra fun!

Indeed :) x

Night night peeps xx

You're not a drama queen
My sister died and her birthday is etched on my memory
I never forget it and visit her grave on her birthday every year even though she's dead and sound you know
YANBU

,,,,,,'Wouldn't know' that should have said

Belated Happy Birthday!

There was a thread a few weekseconds ago where a mnetter was on holiday with her husband and he'd forgotten her birthday. His reaction when he realised was funny.

You'd only be a drama queen if you deliberately made her feel bad about it ......although as birthdays are clearly very important to you if you want a mega fuss made of the big one looming in a couple of years probably best to mention it sooner rather than later :)

Belated happy birthday! FWIW, I think you should have mentioned it yesterday. She'll feel so much worse realising it later on.

I think her being on holiday is significant. I am far less aware of the date when I am on holiday. It's just "Saturday" rather than the 24th iyswim.

My brother rang me on my birthday to discuss something else one year. As the conversation was drawing to a close and he hadn't wished me happy birthday yet, I mentioned it in a jokey way and he quickly apologised for not realising and wished me happy birthday. It was fine. If I hadn't said anything and he'd realised a day or so later, he'd have felt a bit shit.

Mind you, my phone is linked to my FB account so it would be impossible to forget anyone's birthday these days as my phone gives me a handy reminder. It's the birthday of some bloke I used to work with today. Happy birthday random person I haven't spoken to in 4 years! 🎂

i definitely sympathise, when you always make an effort to remember it feels like they don't care as much as you do.

it's not the case and hopefully the stories on here about forgetting important people sometimes help I missed my aunt's birthday again this year. I've missed it about 6 out of 7 years, why I can't remember her month or even a way to remind myself I don't know! I think she is great too

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