Not an AIBU, but asking if you can help me calm down

[KeepItToYourselfPlease]

I'm really worried I might have cervical cancer.

I've been having pains in pelvic area for around a week, the pain is pretty much constant but it fluctuates in intensity. My last period was much shorter than usual. I've had lower back pain for the past few days.

Recently been made a single parent, I'm on my own this weekend without DC and its all I can think about. I'm so hyper aware of my own mortality now I'm on my own and I feel really panicky now.

Can someone please hold my hand?

I've had cervical cancer and your symptoms sound nothing like mine.
Any chance you're constipated?

Oh bless you. It sounds more like a kidney infection to me. I'd have thought if there was anything retained form your miscarriage, it would have caused symptoms a lot sooner than this. It won't be cervical cancer though - that doesn't cause pain. Drink plenty of water to see if that helps and pop to your GP on Monday with a urine sample. Let us know how you get on

for you all. Thank you.

I'm still adjusting to being a single parent and not having someone there to hand me a grip. Mumsnet is so fabulous for this xxx

I've just had a little cry and put the wine back in the fridge. Time for Netflix and a glass of water

Thank you again xxxx

KeepIt, have you had any counselling for anxiety? CBT, for instance?
That can be very very effective

Pacific yes I had therapy for around 7 months following PTSD diagnosis following DC birth.

I was doing really well until Ex up and left after I miscarried.

Things have been really tough since then and my meds were upped. I've been feeling much more positive lately though - I've just bought a house - go me! But perhaps anxiety is creeping up again.
Really didn't want to go back into therapy, as I was so proud of how I'd got things back on track.

So sorry to hear that winny, I hope you're well and healthy now

You should be proud - sounds like you've been through a lot and here you are to tell the tale: go you, indeed!

Maybe you can revisit some of the techniques you've been taught in the past? If you have any books or tapes or materials, maybe review them and go though stuff again to remind yourself how to not let anxiety run away with you?

IMO health anxiety is just awful because there is always something one can suddenly become aware of and then start worrying about, so address it before it gets worse.

Seeking reassurance can be counterproductive because it only works temporarily and actually 'teaches' your subconscious that you had a reason to worry IYSWIM.

You sound like you have your head well screwed on - I'm sure you can and will get better.

Not read the full thread but couple of things jump out

1. recent emotional trauma and stress can trigger bizarre bouts of pain. It's usually our body's way of telling us we need some down time
2. I had very similar pain to what you describe when I had a womb infection. Wasn't sexually active so no idea how I got it but it was bloody agony
3. if you are worried then go to the drop in centre if only for official reassurance
4. WINE and lots of it

I think you're having a very normal reaction to becoming a single parent. It's a hell of a responsibility and the thought of something happening to you and therefore to them is really terrible. I would go for a check up and explain your recent separation and take the reassurance you can get from the doctor.

for you - it's a really horrible time, isn't it? Everything will be okay, it really will.

Hello fellow anxiety sufferer

Sorry for your loss and your rubbish year so far. Miscarriages can mess you up a bit. I feel like I get more tweaks and pains these days after mine ... or I'm noticing them a lot more, maybe a bit of both. And periods can definitely be wacky for a good year or more afterwards, shorter, longer, weird length of cycle or length of period, pain, no pain. It can take a while for things to settle down.

The other thing I find is it often turns out to be IBS related too, and if you're stressed this might be happening to you as well. I've thought I'm dying before and it's just trapped wind; I've also had the ongoing sorts of pain and backache you're describing when I've been constipated without realising it. Mint tea and hot water bottles can help with that stuff sometimes.

Big and from me.

I know it's difficult but try not to panic. I've been there with this and I totally understand, but really, the symptoms you describe could relate to a multitude of things besides cancer, including an infection that can be cleared up with some antibiotics, or a cyst or fibroids.

See your doctor and take it one step at a time. You'll be fine! xx

Thank you, you lovely people.

I think I'd feel happier seeing my GP rather than going to the drop in. I'll make an appointment on Monday

You've all made me feel less alone. Thank you 💐

OP I had something similar to what you're describing two months ago and I was beside myself in a complete panic so I totally understand it is so frightening.

Firstly the likelihood of it being anything sinister when you have just been having symptoms for a week is minor. I had similar symptoms to you and I had cervical erosion (some irritated bleeding cells on my cervix that are being monitored and may need to be lasered off) which is not serious at all. I also had a very bad case of thrush which was causing pain. Again- annoying but nothing long term scary.

Because like you I was so frightened I went to a walk in clinic which was amazing the service was so good they could see the cervical erosion straight away on an examination and I had a swab which showed the thrush infection and ruled out anything else. I can't tell you the relief.

My advice is go and put your mind at rest ASAP whether that be a GP appointment or a walk in centre. Your different period could well be a result of stress too.

Definately sounds like either a super rough month period wise or some kind of infection. You are doing brilliantly so keep it up. You've got this.

Off to the docs I go ☺ I hope they don't think I'm wasting their time though.

I'll check back in and update, hopefully with good news. xx