To feel stressed out about when to have next baby?

[Shouldishouldntishouldi]

I know this has probably been done to death but I was hoping to get some similar stories or just get this off my chest to clear my confused head! We have gorgeous triplets, 18 months old. My husband works full time and I have not gone back to work (have a good career that luckily I can back to). So, we always said we would try for the next baby once the triplets got their free nursery hours. I would go back to work, earn a bit more money, save up a bit and then all being well we would start IVF (issues on my side) and fingers crossed get pregnant again. The triplets would be at school by this point. But now I'm questioning when is right and it's driving me mad. Would we better to start IVF sooner, I'm off with the triplets anyway and then go back to work once the new baby could go to nursery? Is it mad to wait and wait when I have to be off and can't work anyway, than to end up taking a load more time off work, better to get started and have a new baby sooner and move forward quicker? I'm so confused and I know that no one can give me any answers but just needed to get it out there as its stressing me out that we will make the wrong decision. And breathe!

probably going to be shot down by the masses here but I really feel that women should take responsibility for the amount of children they have and think of the bigger picture before deciding on more children.
we are very over populated as a country and I'm not going to bore you with statistics as this was done on a previous thread but can you not be happy with the beautiful triplets you have been blessed with. it's not just about affordability it's the long term drain on resources.
sorry to go of topic I just get fed up of all these I want lots of babies threads with no real thought to the environment.
BTW I have one child which is all I will have but I can understand the want for more than one.
it's the 3+ that gets me thinking why do people feel the need to have so many children?

Not helpful but if I had triplets I wouldn't even consider having another baby! It's such a personal decision and there's no right or wrong time. There are pros and cons to all age gaps and combinations

Happyandsingle - fine for you to have your opinion, obviously, but you know nothing about me or my situation and therefore your assumption that this thread is a having lots of children without thoughts of the environment could not be more wrong. I also personally don't think having 4 children is having so many children. Each to their own, you don't know or understand my reasons and the thoughts behind them and I don't know you or the impact you have on the environment and all the steps you personally take to protect our resources and the environment.

I would wait until the triplets are I school. Otherwise you could be trying to wrangle 4 under 3 and I personally would be crippled by it. Also, three year olds are interesting and you can have the craziest conversations with them - if you have another baby now you'll have less time to enjoy that aspect.

But, if you are really wanting to get back to work, it might be better to get on with the baby making. Then all your time out of the office will be in one chunk, and as soon as the next baby is at school you will be free to dive back in.

I had ID twins and then the broodiness overwhelmed me and we had another baby when they were almost three. It was hard. So hard. They were bigger but still too little to walk far so I needed a double pram and a sling - and DS3 was a porker so rapidly it became to difficult to sling him. I ended up having to have a twin walking, baby and other twin in the pram and then swap them over when one got sleepy.

Personally if I were you I'd wait until the trips are starting school, then at least you know they are big enough to reliably walk and not bolt/fall asleep at the drop of a hat, you have them somewhere else for a large portion of the day, they will be better at entertaining themselves.

It was actually easier with the twins than DS3, I think multiples force you into being super organised and also to not get neurotic at babies crying because they are hungry - they have to wait because you can't physically attend to everyone at the same time!

I too am gobsmacked that you are contemplating another baby when you have 3 tiny triplets!l
I have two kids age 3 and 1 and can't fathom having another.
Wait until they're (nearly ) at school.
How would you get 4 small kids about. I have seem triple buggies but not quadruple buggies.
And you need a serious car for 4 car seats, especially if you want to squeeze in a dh at the same time

I was going to say maybe wait a little bit until I read the it would be 15 months plus by the time they would be born. That's not far off 3. It could take you years of trying for all you know. It sounds like you 'cope' really well with all aspects of motherhood so would probably not find it too much of a struggle to juggle all 4. There's not right or wrong though.

A) I wouldn't

But for you I would wait. If you had twins or triplets again you could could have 5/6 children under the age 3.