I'm on maternity leave currently and my ds is 7 months. We have a 3 year old too who goes to nursery 3 days a week.
My husband said the above frequently for a while, seriously wanting to know what I've been doing all day (while muttering under his breath that the house is a tip). I told him what I do in terms of cleanliness and spending time with my baby and he stopped asking. Now he has started asking again 'jokingly'. We don't have a cleaner any more because of my lack of pay and being at home all week anyway.
So, when he asked this yesterday, here is what I 'did all day':
-took & collected daughter from nursery (45mins round trip each time)
-emptied, loaded, emptied dishwasher
- gave son his breakfast
- bathed son
- cleaned kitchen
- looked through recipe book, planned the weeks meals and wrote shopping list
- went shopping and put it all away
- gave son his dinner
- let baby have an hour nap on me (could have put him in his cot but enjoyed the cuddles)
- tidied living room
- made dinner
- put son to bed
That was a really busy day for me! I don't see where I could have whipped the Hoover round or cleaned the bathroom. I tidy as I go along and always make sure the kitchen and bedrooms are clean and tidy (toys away, bed made, curtains/window open/cups downstairs).
I mean, the house is a mess. It's fruitless to do any big cleaning when I have both children at home as everything ends up strewn everywhere. On the days when it's just me and my boy we often have appointments to attend or see friends as well. I can understand my husband wanting the house to be gleaming as I am there the majority of the week, it ought to be me sorting it. But there literally doesn't seem to be time. And I like to make sure I spend parts of the day playing with my children too, not just running about like Mrs mop.
Does it sound like I don't do much? Should I be doing more by the sounds of my typical day? It's making me feel quite stressed (and undervalued if I'm honest). What do others who are at home manage to get done in a typical day? I have no measuring stick!