To think this is considered more of a fetish than what it actually is?

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So I am watching The Big Bang Theory as you do and Howard is happy because he "gets to have sex with a catholic school girl". This made me think, how is this deemed acceptable? How is it deemed socially acceptable to want to have sex with school girls?

It's easy enough to buy slutty school girl outfits and its openly talked about as a fetish but surely it shouldn't be a fetish or a fantasy? It isn't far off paedophilia in my opinion. Am I wrong?

There are lots of really interesting view points here.

Just so it's clear though, I'm not saying they are paedophiles and I am most definitely not trying to minimise actual paedophilia in any way. I just personally find it strange that, as a nation that is as against child sexual exploitation or abuse as we rightly are, we talk about this type of fantasy so openly.

I didn't watch it but I am thinking like LemonySmithit.
It is possibly about power too. Catholic girls are encourage/ expected to wait until marriage. So a schoolgirl and a Catholic makes me think of being more of a challenge or conquest. Yuk!

The Catholic bit is more because that is his wife's (Bernadette) religion, I hope think.

She's not at school though. She's an adult who went to Catholic school in the past.

Adult dressed in a school uniform and a child is a million miles apart and I'm shocked this needs to be said.

It feeds into a male fantasy of being able to educate a woman sexually (and not have his own insecurities about being compared to another man). The school girl and Catholic elements represent sexual innocence.

Also, in BBT, it is because Howard is Jewish and his mother would disapprove.

Those American sitcoms (BBT, How I Met Your Mother, Rules of Engagement etc.) are rife with misogyny.

Never really thought to much about this subject before, however this has made me think.

I reckon it's more to do with them remembering their horny fifteen year old teenage years. Fancying all the girls.

I don't reckon it's grown men fantasising about little school girls.

I do find it strange though and not something I'd feel comfortable with my dp liking? He thinks it's a bit off aswell

Funny because I don't ever remember any friends of mine fantasising about school boys and asking their dh to dress up as a school boy?

Interested to see what others think

If somebody asked me to dress up in a bear costume while they shagged me, I would assume they were into bestiality. Same goes with asking me to dress up as a child.

LemonySmithit

i agree with you, I was at an RC girls school - men seem to have a preconception about ho I am.

It is something I don't understand.

If my husband asked me to dress up as a school girl I would be really put off by it and wonder why he wants to fantasise about me being a child/teen.

The idea of him wearing a school uniform is both hilarious and a little bit vomit inducing.

Yanbu. Its a bit too much of a shagging a teenager fantasy in my eyes.

It's of a piece with the "barely legal hot teens". Urgh.

Frank Zappa wrote a whole song about it. One day people will see it for how nasty it actually is.

Lots of fantasies are urgh. It can be the prohibited aspect that makes them arousing. But the key thing is that they are fantasies. In people's heads. fantasising about stuff is often out of our control, as to what gets us off, but whether we act on the fantasy is another matter. I'd think most people have no intention of bringing their fantasies into reality. That'd be missing the point. And in the comedy cited in the OP, it's not saying that it's socially acceptable. That's part of the joke, that you're not supposed to say it. Tee hee hee, smirk, nudge nudge, and so forth. Not the most sophisticated, but you can't police what people find funny.

Frank Zappa's song about it comes from a double-album musical that also has a disco track about someone with a fetish for appliances, and other songs about peeing and sitting on cosmic utensils. It's not for everyone, granted, nor is it meant to be, but it's a bit daft to take it out of context and say that's nasty. He spoke about the wrong-headedness of artistic censorship at The Parents Music Resource Center hearing.

But schoolgirls usually aren't adults FluffyWuffyFuckYou

And since no-one is talking about adults having actual sex with actual schoolgirls then that doesn't matter.

As someone wits a fairly colourful range of experiences with fetishes that most aren't even aware exist I personally find school girl dress up one of the tackiest, creepiest, sleeziest things going. And I've been asked to shit in a bottle and mail it to someone.

(I declined).

A "sexy schoolgirl" usually isn't actually a child though is she? It's generally 6th formers so very young adults. It links to when most people first have sex and is about reliving that excitement.
I went to "school disco" a few times in my mid to late 20s. It was fantasy but it wasn't "let's pretend I'm a dirty old man and you're a little girl" it was "let's pretend we are both 18 again!"

Museum - Ahh. Now that spin on it doesn't make me cringe. But it's not often I see it done like that.

Also if you think back to the original st trinians films - the fourth formers are absolutely not sexualised. It's the sixth formers that wear suspenders and flirt.

It's normal for schoolboys to want sex with schoolgirls

Yes, when they are dressed like teachers.

Brilliant!

Hmm... I think I'm just uneasy with the concept of dressing like a child for sex. Each to their own but I would be really put off if someone asked me to do that.

Maybe it's because I work with children that I just couldn't even go there. I never fancied my teachers at school either. I always thought it was icky.