To think MIL (or DH) should have was my pot!

[mangocoveredlamb]

I've been in hospital since Friday (am now fine) and am 33 weeks pregnant.
At the weekend mil came over to cook a casserole in my big Le crueset casserole dish for a lunch party she was having on Sunday. I knew this was happening and it was not a problem (although I don't know why she couldn't have cooked it at her house borrowing the dish)
I've come home from the hospital to find it sitting in my kitchen unwashed and mouldy.
I expect DH told her not to worry when she dropped it back, if she offered to wash it, but AIBU to think she should have washed it anyway??

The one think I am certain of is that no fucking pot should have been left for you to wash!

Thanks for the general consensus.

But left to soak and left dirty by mil on Saturday (no leftovers)

DH did tell her not to worry so she didnt.

Well then he should have bloody washed it up. Plenty of women manage to do all sorts of caring things and still wash things up before they go mouldy.

It would have taken him - what - 5 minutes? YABU for not handing him his arse on a plate. If he told her not to worry, he should have sorted it out, not left it for you to come home to. Or is washing up your job?

Pop a bio detegent tab / powder in, fill to the brim with hot water and leave it overnight, soak the lid too. That should sort it out!

But they are both pillocks!

Your DH needs a good telling off for being fucking useless and your MIL needs to be told no next time she asks to borrow anything. She must have had an inkling your DH was too busy to wash it and that he would forget - she bloody raised him!

You're 33 weeks pregnant. Its a dirty pot. It really doesn't matter.

Nope she's a woman who as just come out of hospital, not a holiday for the gestating. It does matter.

She cooked at yours, filled it to soak and he said "don't worry mum, I'll sort it".

She's done nothing wrong. Even if others of us would have still done it, she isn't in the wrong.

I can't believe you are excusing your husband saying he was run ragged. Too busy to wash a pot that someone else had already put in to soak?

He's the arse in this story.

Although - if he was usually great and he was apologetic and said he'd been frazzled but also lazy, then I'd laugh at him and not care.

Just to clarify she didn't put it in to soak, it was just left on the hob.

DH should have washed it and said so and apologised.

Glad IANBU to have expected to not find a mouldy pot in the kitchen.