Can't work out if IABU or if I just need a bit of perspective. I have a long friendship which went on the back burner a bit when I had kids and she didn't. Fast forward a few years and she asks me to be bridesmaid when she gets married, I say yes, spend days out looking at dresses, help with anything she asks, weekends away for hen and wedding etc, all more than happy to do as delighted for her. However since the wedding I am detecting a distinct lack of enthusiasm for meeting up. Suggested meeting up over the summer and she couldn't fit me in for a couple of months, then suggested going away for a weekend (pre kids we would have done this) and am basically told after family, husband and commitments to other friends she doesn't have time or money for anything else. Then to top it all off at an all day event she suggested going to she is now leaving mid afternoon for a dinner with husband and has friends.
I have to say I feel a bit used and can't work out if IABU as if I was just out of her social circle for so long I don't figure in her planning.
I do have other friends by the way 