to think this Facebook comment is just fucking rude? Or is it seriously an attempt at a compliment?

[BlackDove123]

I feel like it was supposed to be a compliment, but wasn't thought about properly.

Don't worry, my post wasn't me fishing for compliments, I literally just shared a memory and the caption was me moaning about my looks when I was unwell (I was a teen btw!) and went on to say how I wished I looked like that now. Anyway, makes no sense without seeing it.

She comments this...

Oh, I crossed out any names, pictures, etc.

She's not your friend and she's thick as mince.

Do you were a teen then, how long ago, 2,3 years max? Still a teen presumably. I can't imagine an adult giving this the time of day.
Well...
What a trivial load of old bollocks.
Your 'friend' is a bit dim. I mean 'work colleague'. Why give this a second thought?
Why would you even share such a bizarre status (that was fishing for compliments)?

Well with the use of 'ur' (pet peeve) I would discard the comment straight away.

You posted a photo with a caption moaning about your looks so what kind of response were you expecting?

Its hard to know what on earth she meant - however, I would certainly lean towards: "you're my plain friend but don't worry about it."

This is your friend so you know them.

Are they generally not very good at sentences?

I'd be blocking her just for "ur" although not writing " gawjus" might work in her favour.
It's not a compliment and she's being a cow

Yeah, that's not a compliment, she's being a snidey cow. At least you know what you're dealing with!

It could be like when DD says 'I don't like pulled pork, I LOVE it'. So you're not pretty, you're GORGEOUS! Or summat.

My take on the post is that shes saying - yes you don't look pretty in that picture but you're gorgeous on the inside and that's what counts.

The best compliment I ever had was from an ex boyfriend who told me I wasn't pretty. He said I wasn't pretty in the conventional way that most women are, but stunning in a stand out from the crowd kind of way.
I have not forgotten it because he was right, I wasn't pretty and had never believed anyone that told me I was. But, because he took the time to explain himself I could take the compliment.
That's probably a lot deeper than it needed to be here, but I hope that is what your friend meant

What an utter bitch! I ditched a friend a couple of years ago who always made backhanded compliments. People like that are nasty insecure little arseholes

No, I am 25.

I shared the memory, from when I was 17, that said I looked awful, with a new caption (which was a joke about how we all would rather look like what we did when we thought we looked awful) I don't know why some of you are so hung up on it. Yes, I did post an awful picture of myself (I actually now don't think it was awful), I was 17, I do not remember my motives, maybe it was because Facebook wasn't like how it was now, or maybe it was because I was fishing for compliments (I do not remember)

She's an illiterate hun but not a bitch.

No, this isn't even a backhanded compliment. She says 'You're not pretty, but you're beautiful inside'. That's just bitchy - it's not a backhanded compliment, it's an insult, followed by a compliment.

A kinder thing would have been to say 'Not your finest look maybe, but you've always been absolutely gorgeous on the inside'

Did you reply?
I wouldn't be able to resist saying " what ?"

I'd reply wow if that's your attempt at a compliment I'd hate to receive a put down ;-)

This is far too one sided really.

You've screen shotted the reply, but told us what the original post and the shared memory posts said.

Also, no-one here knows what your friend's sense of humour is really like, or whether you're one of those Facebookers who make people sit on their hands and spend most of their time not posting what they're really thinking.

There's really no need to give this any more headspace.

I think she is probably muddled more than bitchy. She put that kiss face emoticon which makes me think she was trying to be nice. It's easy to type things out quickly on your phone and realise what you are trying to say isn't what you have actually written. I've done it on here and it's given me all kinds of grief. I truly think she meant to say gorgeous inside and out.

I think muddled and potentially a bit thick rather than bitchy

Oh my good god that's harsh but to be honest some people post such utter bollocks on FB it takes immense self control not to take the piss.

I would delete the post and just forget it.

If you was ill was you looking rough??

Nothing as a meaning but the meaning you give it.

So give it a nice meaning and move on. It will consume you otherwise, even months down the line, don't do that to yourself.

One where

"Thanks...I think..." is an appropriate response

She can't have meant to say "you're gorgeous inside and out" because she specifically goes on to say "that's so much better than being pretty". i.e. you're a lovely person on the inside, which is better than being beautiful.

She sounds like a rude cow.