To think it's really hard to meet someone in your 30s

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Romantically that is ! I feel most men are taken. I have heard about a second sort of rush as people
Get divorced but this hasn't happened to my knowledge.

So AIBU to stay with someone I don't think really loves me?

My dickhead ex met his OW when they were both in their 30s. Shame he wasn't single at the time but at 37 she certainly didn't have trouble meeting someone.

Bitter? Moi?

Well you've asked two totally unrelated questions. Let me deal with the blindingly obvious one first. YES YABU to stay with someone who doesn't love you.

Ok, is it harder to meet someone in your 30s? Yes. Some men perceive women as "desperate to have a baby and trap them" as soon as they hit 30, so that's good because you instantly weed out all the time wasters who just want a shag. A lot of men are also wanting to settle down but I think they want an age gap so a 38 year old would date a 30 year old woman more willingly than a 31 year old man who is looking for a 25 year old woman because he doesn't want to have kids until he's a bit older etc etc. In that sense the second wave of divorcees could be fruitful for women in that age group.

However I have friends in RL who have bucked this trend, quite a few of whom met partners in their mid to late thirties and went on to marry and have children, so it's all depending on the individual really.

I suppose I would say, and genuinely mean, don't write yourself off. You're ridiculously young to be settling. You only live once get out there and have fun and if you want to meet someone I'm sure you will!

Yes a male 38 year old friend of mine who is lovely is desperate to meet someone and have a family he's just looking for the right woman!

YABU to stay with someone who doesn't love you. I'm 32 and have yet to meet Mr Right and atm I don't care if I don't until I'm 60, I'm going to enjoy my life, try new things and enjoy my independence. Also I have relatives who have met their partners at 35 and married at 38 and people who have married/remarried in their 50's too.