...to think that Deadpool, Zombieland and Shaun of the Dead aren't really appropriate films to show my 8 and 9 yr old ds's? ?!

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I'll make this as brief as possible!
My husband and I separated over 2 years ago. We have 3 kids 8 and 9 ds and just 3 yr old dd. We went to court for child arrangement order, as mediation wasn't working and neither was anything else as he was so abusive to me when dropping or collecting kids.

Anyway. ..I've tried talking to him about keeping structure and routines, but he thinks I'm just criticising him.
But now the kids are lying to me about what they do there and they've eventually told me about watching these films! Apparently he fast forward the inappropriate bits of deadpool. Wtf?! Why even show them at all? !

Or am I overreacting?!

I've seen all of these films. ..yes they're great, especially deadpool. ....but for 8 and 9 yr olds??

His attitude and what he thinks is appropriate for young children is appalling. Have no experience - but what does the likes if social services have to say about it. deadpool is NOT in anyway appropriate for young children.

Social services won't get involved apparently. I spoke to then and I received a letter saying they won't be doing anything, basically. So what's the point in having age restrictions? ?

I will probably be flamed for this but YABU.

Lets be honest it isn't about the films, its about you controlling how your ex, parents their DC, possibly your trying to get full residence, them labeled a bad parent?

Most parents do something that could be labeled unreasonable by MN. I have let my children watch films against their age ratings, big deal. Its more important to look at the big picture rather than one specific thing. Some 18 rated films from the 80's are considered so tame now my DC are bored watching them.

If all you have against your ex is shaun of the dead then you are being very unreasonable. What an other parent does with their children in their time is not dependent on the other parents permission (terms and conditions excepted).

I am lax with film ratings. My 13 year old has seen Zombieland and Sean of The Dead. Her brother has seen neither. They both wanted to watch Deadpool but do not to watch sex on screen so they won't be watching that one yet.

It is a crappy situation as nobody's going to care unless one of your children repeats something inappropriate from the movie to the teacher or something.

Any nightmares? My 10 year old would find the zombie movies very gory (he's watched 12A content)

Mathsmum314....actually it's not all I've got against him watching shaun of the dead, and it's not about the ratings....I too have let them watch some things that are above their age limits. And, like you say, alot of 80's films are very overrated with the age limits. I was simply asking whether Deadpool and the others were something you'd let your 8 yr old watch? And thankyou for your opinion.
Although I am not, however, trying to control him....I am simply trying to co-parent with him and would actually like him to try and respect the things that I feel are wholly inappropriate for our children. I do NOT want him to stop seeing the kids....he is their father...I just would like him to be a little more thoughtful with the kind of stuff they view.

Plus....it is the subsequent behaviour and extreme tiredness after returning from his that is making it difficult. Surely we have to try and keep things (reasonably) at a similar point of parenting as opposed to just dismissing the other parent and letting them do what the hell the kids like? It just shows that they can disrespect anything I say as their father does.

It sounds like your ExH has a problem with rules and thinks they shouldnt apply to him. Taking everything you say as a personal critisism or attack is typical.
He may think he's winning, buying the kids affections now by treating them as if they are older. But at some point they'll realise he's not fun, hes essentially selfish, and they cant trust him.

That is so sad :( You see teachers saying what sorts of things the little kids in their class are talking about and think 'who on earth would expose their little kids to that material?' and it seems so common now.

The ratings are meaningless. 18s now are so graphic most wouldn't have passed censors when we were kids, 12s show stuff I never saw in the 1980s/early 90s 18s I saw. It's crazy. I remember one of the Spiderman films was a 12 and I was about 19 and surprised at the level of violence, because really... 12? All they do is remove the blood spatters and they get 12s. The Batman films - people beaten to death, shot, tortured, but if there's no blood, no 15 rating.