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Dakin1 · 11/09/2016 19:02

This was a couple of years ago...

Went to ask my GPs advice about NHS funding for assisted conception.

I do not have a problem with my fertility but my partner and I are unable to conceive together. We wanted to find out what options (if any) were available to us on the NHS.

The GPs response: Why don't you ask a male friend to get you pregnant?

Is this a normal response from a GP?! I was slightly taken aback.

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thewavesofthesea · 11/09/2016 19:41

That was new in 2013 though, so may not have been available when you were looking for it

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gonetoseeamanaboutadog · 11/09/2016 19:41

You're right. It shouldn't be any different. The psychological and ethical consequences for you and the child are comparable.

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SleepDeprivedAndCranky · 11/09/2016 19:44

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Mumoftwoyoungkids · 11/09/2016 20:19

If I remember right (my cousin and her wife have just had a baby girl) then if the conception is done "officially" then both halves of the couple can be named on the birth cert. If not they can't.

So a dangerous thing to suggest.

(Obviously a couple should investigate that type of thing themselves but as a certain ex leader of the opposition didn't realise that if he was unmarried and wasn't at the resistry office he couldn't be on his baby's birth certificate I think we can safely say that people are not very good at checking this type of thing out.)

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2rebecca · 11/09/2016 20:29

Why are you starting a thread about it 2 years down the line on a Sunday evening?
The lesbian couple I know did conceive with friends. Their kids have 2 mums and 2 dads.

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Welshrainbow · 11/09/2016 20:34

If it was worded exactly as you out it it seems a bit wrong but if it was more along the lines of have you considered a known donor, maybe a friend, to donate sperm and inseminating at home then it sounds perfectly reasonable.

Incidentally as long as a same sex couple are married or in a Cp even if they conceive at home both can be on birth certificate as myself and my OH are.

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JagerPlease · 11/09/2016 20:53

When my wife and I first saw our gp regarding nhs insemination we were asked if we'd consider adopting instead, so it doesn't surprise me!