To buy a bed behind his back?

[Sofres]

Just moved into a flat with DD19, DS17 and DP. The flat is 2 bed but has an upstairs that is a balcony style iyswim.

The balcony bit is actually very big so as DD stays at her boyfriends the majority of the time we was just going to section off a small section of the room with some screens for her to use when she's her and boyfriend are here. To save space we was going to have a sofa bed so it can be folded away when she isn't home.

Been looking online and I'm amazed at how expensive sofa beds are and in all honestly would much rather buy a proper bed.

The space is huge even if halved and would be used as a second lounge and the tv there would be though sky go on DDs Xbox as there isn't a tv point so most likely will only be used by DD and her boyfriend.

DP is still adament that we only get a sofa bed though.

Would I be completly unreasonable to just get a decent bed for her and sectioning off some of some of the space for her "bedroom" and not tell DP until it's too late for him to say no? Eg when he's at work and comes home to the bed all put together

If you're moving somewhere else after 6 months or so, it will likely be somewhere with a proper bedroom for your DD I would have thought? If so, she definitely needs a proper bed, buying a sofa bed would be a false economy surely?

I reckon to look at the Hemnes (or however you spell it) bed from Ikea. I've slept on one, and it was quite comfortable, and much better than an ordinary sofabed

I vote get a Bedinge from ikea!

I miss my futon. They don't have to be uncomfortable. mine wasn't But it came from a place that only sold futons. The pad thing was really, really thick and heavy. Have since seen others, and the pad thing wasn't much thicker than a 15 tog quilt.

but anyway. She needs her own space. i would section off more than a small bit of the area. The only thing I would section is a make shift hall if needed to access bedrooms/bathrooms. If he wants an extra TV lounge then he needs to physically go out and look for a 3 bed property with additional space for what he wants.

A decent futon is amazing. I had a double one for years and only got rid of it because I couldn't get up off it when heavily pregnant with ds2 so needed something higher to roll off into an upright position.
Ds1 has a single futon as a chair in his room and I occasionally sneak in and sleep on it when my back is particularly bad. One night on it sorts me out.
The Ikea daybed thing is very nice, though.

I also miss my futon. Slept on it for years and it sorted my bad back out a treat.

(Her old bed was falling apart and if we took it apart to move it then we'd never get it back together again

My point was - that she DID have a bed in the old place, and this looks very much to me as if she has had to go elsewhere as there is nowhere for her to sleep. Was this even a discussion? Or is he trying to keep her out by not giving her a space?

I'd get a BRIMNES bed from IKEA. The HEMNES is fine if you are short as it has a board at the head and foot end whereas the BRIMNES doesn't. Both come with storage drawers for bedding.

Then he needs to get it out of his head that this is a spare living space, as its her bedroom.

Has he pushed her out in other ways before?