Wedding

[KitchenNightmare99]

DH got a wedding invite to a guy from works whole day wedding...I got an evening which I was fine with. We only invited his work ones to our wedding no partners except one married couple who I met and knew the wife the other partners id never met.

Fast fwd 3 years and I have now met them
A few times. DH assumed that it was only work colleagues invited to the whole day but we found out today all te couples are invited to the whole day except us and one other GF who is has been with BF 6 months so a newish relationship. I now feel very uncomfortable going to the evening reception as I feel like I'm not really wanted. WIBU not to go DH is a bit annoyed and has said he might not go either but I've told him he should.

Given you thought it was perfectly acceptable to invite workmates without partners to your wedding. I'm guessing they are thinking that you will understand that they have financial pressures too and you won't mind getting an evening invite.

I also find it really strange - and very rude - that they'd just invite one half of a married couple and even more so when other couples are invited. It'd be a thanks but no thanks from me.

YANBU.

It's the leaving one person out that I find off and rude. If it was only work colleagues invited to the day do then fair enough. But to invite all long term partners with the exception of the OP just seems a bit strange

Hmm I can see both sides of this. However I don't think you really have grounds to complain given that you excluded all but one of the partners for your own wedding, even taking into account you know these people better now. As weddings are all about couples/love/family I don't understand why some brides and grooms to be insist on some guests coming without their partner. Obviously cost is sometimes a factor here - for my wedding we are limited to less than 50 people, but we have included the partners of our guests, even if it meant being more ruthless with our total guest list and not being able to invite everyone we wanted. I would hate for those who are coming to feel uncomfortable or upset at their own DP being left out, and having to watch us being loved up all day.

I think it's a bit odd of them.

However, as I find weddings so unutterably boring, I would be really grateful and stay home in my PJs

When it was our wedding they were all very 'new' relationships no more than a few months together at the time. I'm
Genuinley not annoyed at the evening invite I completly understand you cannot invite everyone it's just how 6 other couples have been invited has made me feel a bit and half of them aren't married

I'm gonna put it down to maybe they are closer than I thought and see how I feel
Closer to the time whether I will go or not.