to go home early?

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VelvetSpoon · 09/09/2016 15:42

Meant to be on a night out tonight, with 3 friends.

Friend 1 has cancelled. Friend 2 is coming, but has an appt first thing tomorrow so is going home around 10-10.30. Friend 3 is planning a big night out, and after the pub (where we're meeting at 8) wants to go on to an over 30s night at a local social club.

I had a v busy weekend last weekend helping my bf move, shifting boxes and cleaning his house top to bottom. I work ft, this weekend I need to spend cleaning my own house, helping bf sort out a load of stuff that's at my house, then doing a boot sale on Sun.

I am already knackered and can't face a really late night tonight. WIBU to go home when Friend 2 goes? I appreciate this means Friend 3 won't get her night out, but I just can't face drinking til 2am, or the hangover tomorrow, or the cost (admission to this place is £9, let alone drinks etc!)

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BorpBorpBorp · 09/09/2016 15:44

Of course YANBU. You shouldn't feel obliged to stay out drinking longer than you want to.

Amelie10 · 09/09/2016 15:45

Yanbu, I'm sure you must be tired from the last weekend. Leave with friend 2.

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VelvetSpoon · 09/09/2016 17:15

Thanks!

A bit concerned as to how Friend 3 will take it. She is keen on these big nights out but doesn't have all the other stuff to do that I have to try and fit in...

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PuntasticUsername · 09/09/2016 17:17

YANBU, why do you "owe" Friend 3 a night out that you don't want yourself?!

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VelvetSpoon · 09/09/2016 17:23

Good point. I'm a bit of a people pleaser sometimes, hence my concern over Friend 3s reaction. She knows 2 won't stay out late but I'm sure she'll expect me to.

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rookiemere · 09/09/2016 17:28

YANBU, but it would be only fair to give Friend 3 a head's up so a) she knows in advance and isn't disappointed at the time and b) she can't say you didn't warn her in advance.

I'd text both of them and say something like "I'm really looking forward to tonight. I've got a busy weekend so I'm going to call it a night after the pub as well. See you later. "

That way at least Friend 3 is pre-warned and if she decides to bail as it's not the night out she wants then she can do so.

FrancisCrawford · 09/09/2016 17:45

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PuntasticUsername · 09/09/2016 20:24

Yeah, good point from rookie, let her know in advance so she has the option to ask someone else along, avoid awkwardness on the night and so you don't get swayed at 10pm once you've had one or two drinks!

PuntasticUsername · 09/09/2016 20:25

Oops sorry, just realized that the night out is tonight so it's now too late for that

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