To expect a teacher to comfort a 5 year old who doesn't normally cry rather than

[Twiglett]

make them stand at a wall or sit on a chair till they calm down

DS doesn't cry easily .. he really really doesn't and never has .. even when hurt he won't cry normally

He didn't have enough sleep last night .. but he has just told me he had 2 cries at school today and was made to first sit on a chair till he calmed down and second made to stand at a wall till he calmed down .. but he wasn't asked why he was crying

Stand at a wall until he calmed down?
Sounds very extreme, especially for an upset 5-year old.
Poor DS.

I'd have a word at school. You need to find out the full story.

Depends upon the circumstances but standing at a wall sounds like it must have followed rotten behaviour - I would have a chat with her (friendly!) and find out the story.

What a horrible attitude by the teacher. Give him a virtual hug from me!
Dd rarely cries too and it would really piss me off if that happened to her (more than ds who cries easily) but I still think they should find out the cause of crying whether they cry a lot or not. 5 year olds are small and school can still be a scarey place.

actually I know the reason for the 2nd one

he was running away from friend a, friend b grabbed his hand, friend c punched him

teacher came over and told b, c and ds off

friend D told whole story to teacher (and to me later) that totally exonerated DS

friend b(grabbed his hand) had already run off)

friend c (punched DS) made to stand at fence with teacher

DS (been punched and told off unecessarily) made to stand by wall under he calmed down

Have a chat, explain how upset ds was due to being hit and then blamed, but do express appreciation that must be nigh on impossible to check all of the kids out at the same time as a teacher. Poor lad!

yea sad. needs gently sorting by discussion

I think you can only expect a teacher to treat everyone the same and try to be as even-handed as possible. It's a classroom, not a court of law, and sometimes the wrong kid gets to sit on the naughty chair by mistake and ends up feeling indignant ... it's really not the end of the world.

Boy in question will be 9 now. This thread is 4 years old! and Twiglett doesn't post anymore.

I worked with pre-schoolers, you're just not allowed to hug them - unless your hands can be seen - and that's when they're relaxing the rules. To be honest if a child needed comfort I gave it to them. Bugger stupid rules.

I'd want mine to be.

I'm a teacher so I might be able to shed a little light.
He/she probably was sorting out the other children and telling them off. your child was probably told to sit out of the way while this was happening. The teacher only has one pair of hands.