Holiday issues - wwyd

[Mybrainishurtingme]

Not an aibu as much as a wwyd

Me and my mum are due to go on holiday on sat 17th booked and paid for months ago, a package holiday a week in the sun s/c just the two of us

She now has a funeral to attend on 19th. It's my uncle and I'm probably not going, he had been living abroad so we weren't that close, although I travelled to see him recently when he was in hospital.
I don't get on especially well with the family and feel i said what I needed to/he knew I was there when I went to the hospital. We knew he wasn't getting better even though he became ill quickly, was told he had about 6 weeks left and dies a week later .

Mum is going to the funeral as its her brother.

It is too late to amend names or departure date on holiday (100% cost to amend these within 14days)

For info whilst he was seriously ill in hospital his mum and sister went on holiday, other sister flew to America and other brother never visited him once

I dont know what to do 'for the best' re our holiday. I've had a tough few months and really could do with a break

Options are

1. cancel holiday - mum can claim on insurance (as close family members funeral) but I can't (not close enough relation to me)
   She would get money back (less excess, not sure how much this is)
   I would lose all of mine

2. I go on holiday as planned - mum gets flight after funeral
   Mum gets shorter holiday for cost of extra flight (c75£)
   I get full holiday and lose nothing

It seems either way one of us is going to lose out. Spoke to travel Co and they won't make any exception re the fees

I don't know what to do for the best. If we still go and mum joins me later I feel bad she gets a shorter holiday and has to pay for another flight when she could reclaim the holiday cost and go another time

But if we cancel and she gets her money back then I will lose all of mine

As we can amend booking I can't even take a friend /hubby away instead

Hol cost was £400pp if that helps (had already paid to bring it forward a week after mum was invited to a wedding)

WWYD? I can't even think straight

As we can amend booking I can't even take a friend /hubby away instead

Cant someone else book a flight and come out? The hotel wont care who staying, surely its just the flights that are a problem.

The best option of the ones you suggest is your mum flying out afterwards.

If you can't afford to offer your mum £35 to split the cost of the flight, how the hell are you financing eating on this week long self catering break?

I imagine the cost of the holiday has been budgeted for. Paying for half an extra flight on top has not.

Option 2, assuming it is Shorthaul, or you both attend the funeral and go later. You could easily spend £75 on food and entertainment in 2 days, so she won't have that cost. Do check that changing the outward flight won't affect her return booking though.

Have you spoken to the airline about whether it will waive charges since it's due to such a close bereavment? Not a huge chance of success but no harm in asking.

consumerist.com/2014/07/01/what-happens-to-your-plane-ticket-when-theres-a-death-in-the-family/

Thank you all

I have spoken to airline and they can confirm mum can fly later and still us the return flight

Those who suggested someone else could join me by booking another flight - the outbound is 75 but inbound 300+ hence why I wanted to be sure my mum could keep the return leg!

Scarlet as soup dragon said I have budgeted for the holiday and spending money but don't have any other 'spare' money - but thanks for your sympathy at this horrible time

Persianpia - if it was a grandparent I would be covered but uncles are not classed as close relatives

ana no we have separate policies

blu I meant if she was able to claim the gull holiday cost for both of us we could rebook later in year using holiday cost & spending money

gull holiday? I hate birds - FULL* holiday cost