AIBU or is DH.......so fed up i could cry

[whatisforteamum]

I work shifts and DH does opposite days.I see him about 1 day a month and 2 eves a week from 7pm.
Last night i was off and went to see Dm with flowers as DF is really ill and got chatting.When i got in dh was out.It turned out he was at the garage with his car which needed repairing.I felt sorry as ive had car trouble.
About 9 i asked him about today as there is no way he can get to work without a car and i am off.
He told me he was out...at golf and had booked hols for this.Golfing meal and drinks.when i pointed out he couldve told me he said he had barely seen me and i seemed moody (my workplace is changing hands and ive been under the weather too).He also has golf next week and a few days before my 50th in oct.
AIBU to expect him to tell me or the dcs or is this being a control freak? i wouldve seen DM today had i known he was out.I cant see him until next week now.[ANGRY]

[whatisforteamum]

thanks for the perspective sandy do you have dc too ?

[MrsTerryPratchett]

It's totally different when you see each other every day. No one needs to prioritize couple time if there is plenty of it. When it is limited, the other person shouldn't go out of their way to limit it. Unless they actually don't want to spend time with you. In which case, why stay married?

[SandyY2K]

Yes. I have DC, but they are teenagers and pretty much self sufficient.

I used to get annoyed when the DC were younger and he took AL in the school holidays and didn't tell me. Leaving all the childcare arrangements to me. My holidays were always used to look after kids and his were used for leisure.

But now it's just fine.