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To leave holiday early?

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Badbadtromance · 08/09/2016 15:20

Dd 14 is in a theatre group. The first performance is Sunday pm but we are on holiday. Cue epic teenage tantrum. I'm on my own with 3 kids and she is eldest. I worried its not fair on other two who are 5/6. Its not a bit performance more a trial run. I would also need to do a four hour drive from quite early allowing for stops. I really need this break. Just don't know what to do.
Tia

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Topseyt · 08/09/2016 16:45

Bloody hell, just saw your update as had missed it before.

No. Do not come back early. It is only a three day holiday and your first in a year. That would be madness.

Tell your DD that the holiday is happening and you do not expect any drama (pun intended) from her about it. Tough luck to her. You are currently giving her the message that the world revolves around her. It doesn't. Tell her so. She will be able to go to all other theatre club sessions for months to come. She can wait now and that is fair enough.

Chattymummyhere · 08/09/2016 17:57

So first she wanted to come back one day early and now two out of a three day break no way.

Can she stay with a friend or family member and just you and the two little ones go?

If you had booked abroad you wouldn't come home early for a hobby so treat it no different just because you are staying in the same country.

Drowzeee · 08/09/2016 17:59

Will it cost you oney to come home early, have you already paid for accomodation?

No way would I come back, she is stil a child and should do as she is told. The Drama Group are at fault for not giving notice, her anger should be directed at them, not you. It's not fair on you or your other DC.

LIZS · 08/09/2016 18:02

Surely the break is more important! Can she stay behind with someone rather than disrupt the break for everyone. Is she normally so attention seeking?

Gottagetmoving · 08/09/2016 18:10

Definitely have your full break. You need that more than she needs this trial drama thing.
You don't always have to accommodate a child's wants.
The fact she had a tantrum would have confirmed to me that giving in would be wrong.
If you can leave her with someone so she can go, then do that if you really think it's important but don't let 3 people miss out because of this.

Blu · 08/09/2016 18:54

At14 can she go home on the train and stay with a mate?

greenfolder · 08/09/2016 20:30

Any chance of her just staying with a friend and not coming out holiday at all?

Lilaclily · 08/09/2016 20:32

Get her to choose between that and the holiday

Mouikey · 09/09/2016 04:32

Absolutely don't come back early... You haven't been away in ages and need a break, she wants to come back early, not just one day, but two of a three day break - so if you say yes, where's the holiday?

Amelie10 · 09/09/2016 04:55

Stop pandering to the miserable madam here. She's behaving the way she does because she gets results when she does. You should send her back for the performance if you can, but if you can't then tough. Let her throw a tantrum and ignore it.

ohdearme1958 · 09/09/2016 05:05

OP the reason the theatre drama whatever group get away with this nonsense is because of parents like you who teach then it's ok.

MrsMozart · 09/09/2016 09:04

Nope.

Go on holiday.

PGPsabitch · 09/09/2016 18:43

Sounds like she's looking for an excuse to stay home...

Can you leave her with anyone? Grandparents? Then enjoy your holiday.

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