Am I being an unreasonable mum?

[Laurensr]

Probs not the right place for this one but didn't know where else to put it.

My little one has always been a good sleeper, slept through the night at 6 weeks old, now, at 19 months she would normally sleep through 7-8 but not this week, this morning she was up at 4!! She's changed, she use to be such a happy baby, but now she's throwing tantrums all the time, screaming if she doesn't get her own way, slaps me kicks me, I tell her off but she literally laughs in my face, how do you guys tell your little ones off that's effective? Feel like I'm failing her as her mum. Advice please

It's hard but don't rise to it. Tell her off/remove her from the situation but don't react to any laughing. Same with Tantrums, ensure she's safe and let her get on with it. Any attempt to stop it will probably prolong the tantrum.

You're not failing, your little one is changing and it can be a shock sometimes when they suddenly switch over night.

I found at that age ignoring was the best thing.

So if she hits you a firm 'no' and tell her it hurts mummy then putting her down not engaging with it. Being really positive when she's behaving.

Ultimately though toddlers are hard work and a nightmare ime. They're learning to express themselves and find their way.

I found at that age ignoring was the best thing.

So if she hits you a firm 'no' and tell her it hurts mummy then putting her down not engaging with it. Being really positive when she's behaving.

Ultimately though toddlers are hard work and a nightmare ime. They're learning to express themselves and find their way.

With regards to the early waking that's a tough one.

Perhaps you could try lying her back down and saying it's not morning yet. Would she play quietly in the cot? People say gro clocks are good, never used one myself.

The darker mornings that will be coming soon might help.

Yep say no, we don't do that, then ignore them until the behaviour stops. Then carry on as if nothing had happened. If they are not safe then remove them to a safe place first but don't engage.

I found that ignoring worked. You have to be consistent, and it takes a little while for the child to get the hang of it (days rather than weeks), but it's usually very effective. And yes, lots of praise for everything they do that's good.

Welcome to the insane toddler phase, and it is exactly that, a phase. You're not a shit mum, her behaviour isn't that unusual.
Ignore the bad and big praise for the good behaviour. It will pass

Thank you for your replies, so reassuring to know that it's a phase and I'm not raising Saturn 😂

You're not failing her; she's a 1 year old. It's what they do.

It's not a developmental stage known for reason and empathy.

This too will pass.

Pretty sure there's a sleep regression at 18 months.

It's completely normal. They start to explore their boundaries, make it clear where those boundaries are and they feel more secure in their worlds and the tantrum phase passes quicker (but still expect a few months). Little people feel very big emotions so they need lots of comfort because it's a scary feeling for them to be dealing with even if we just see it as naughty.