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To think this is not a present to me

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judybloomno5 · 05/09/2016 23:52

Beware- a bit first world...

I'm being induced tomorrow, I can't bloody wait to get this pregnancy over and done with. It's been the worst few months of my life for various reasons.

DH has proudly showed me my present that he got me. A bottle of red wine costing £25.

I don't drink wine since I have gave up smoking 3 years ago
Since having DC I've gone off booze
£25 for a bottle is fucking ridiculous seeing as we are trying to move house
I'm going to try and breastfeed this time - no alcohol

I want to hide the bottle of wine so the bastard doesn't get to drink it.

I know I'm being U

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judybloomno5 · 06/09/2016 00:15

No induction until the morning. I've taken some drugs for my severe back pain.

elQuintoConyo- I wasn't expecting anything to be honest, we've got an expensive time coming up and the best gift for me is healthy baby and healthy mother. Alcohol really hasn't appealed to me since i had DC1 in 2014 as Ive known given Im such a lightweight, that Ill feel like the rot the next day. He claims not to know this despite he always finishes my wine as I never finish it.

Wine sitting on the work top in a wine bag for my DM from DD saying 'thank you for having me'. If its mine I can regift it can't I?

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judybloomno5 · 06/09/2016 00:19

SandyY2K- Actually some silk knickers would go down well as I've been in boulder holders since I found out Im pregnant.

Arfarfanarf- Thats a good idea. I'm going to say 'you bought it for me?, so i can regift it can't i?'. Poor DM was widowed in May, she needs the wine more than me but she's happy with cheaper wine.

I still can't get over £25 for a bottle of wine. Maybe Im unsophisticated but thats a lot.

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ThumbWitchesAbroad · 06/09/2016 00:36

YANBU at all - a present for you would have involved some thought as to what you like and can have. Red wine clearly isn't it, so the "present" was for himself.

I really like the idea of giving it to your mum - good one! Grin

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 06/09/2016 00:37

Oh and good luck tomorrow - I had both of mine by induction, Ds1 because he was 2w overdue, and Ds2 because he was a PITA who wouldn't go head down and kept swimming around - had full intervention with that, but he still came out ok.
Induction with Ds1 was a better experience, though.

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judybloomno5 · 06/09/2016 01:04

Thumb switch- mine is due to DD coming in 4 hours and having a low score when she was born and DH works 1 hour 15 from home on a good day, we live somewhere rural so DH could get stuck behind a tractor and given its likely I'll be quicker this time I didn't fancy having a flat baby on the motorway.

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judybloomno5 · 06/09/2016 01:05

But thank you, I appreciate the well wishes.

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SatsukiKusakabe · 06/09/2016 01:42

Hope everything goes well for you Flowers

Yanbu. I always feel like I've got the world's worst hangover after I've had a baby anyway, last thing I feel like is drinking.

After dc1 my dh arrived in the ward to take us home bearing an egg mcmuffin. One of the best moments of my life. Second obviously to births weddings etc etc.

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judybloomno5 · 06/09/2016 02:02

Thank you Satsuki. I think an Egg Mcmuffin would be quite thoughtful. Pushing out a sprog is hungry work and I'm assuming

DH forgets I saved a bottle of fizz (I can stomach one glass) from earlier in the year. Sadly he's the type to finish off a whole bottle in an evening and lie asleep on the sofa. No way Jose.

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judybloomno5 · 06/09/2016 02:02

Sorry I'm assuming he had one too

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Italiangreyhound · 06/09/2016 02:05

Just say it is lovely darling but not my size or my colour, can you change it
for .... (insert what you really want]...

Good luck. XX

Italiangreyhound · 06/09/2016 02:06

My tipple of choice after dd was Lactulose, because the iron pills gave me terrible constipation.... but I wouldn't consider a bottle of that a gift either!

VforVienetta · 06/09/2016 02:09

Definitely agree with giving it to your mum, what a rubbish 'present'.
Perhaps you could get him a tube of Lansinoh or a nice expensive set of bamboo breast pads as 'new father' present - about as useful to him as expensive wine is for you.

Good luck with your induction, hope all goes well Flowers

As an aside though, you can drink while BFing. Have a Google, but newer research shows that even after several drinks BM has a very low alc%, apparently less than that found in orange juice in the article I read.

Beeziekn33ze · 06/09/2016 02:26

Hide it and have a girly wetting of baby's head in a few weeks when you feel like it' 😉

Beeziekn33ze · 06/09/2016 02:28

Invite your mum too, of course!🍷🍷🍷🍷

Yorkieheaven · 06/09/2016 05:37

Good luck op.Flowers

Mine turned up post baby with a big rubber ring from boots and presented it to me in front of all my family saying 'well Yorkie had her tail shot off so thought this would help' Grin

rosesarered9 · 06/09/2016 14:06

Ask him to return it.

galaxygirl45 · 06/09/2016 14:24

Make a darned good beef or spag bol and bung the bottle in - viola. That way you can share the "thoughtful" gift..............

galaxygirl45 · 06/09/2016 14:25

beef casserole i meant!!

Soubriquet · 06/09/2016 14:28

Hope your birth goes well OP

You will have to tell us his reaction

badg3r · 06/09/2016 14:45

Take it with you to the hospital and give it to the consultant/midwife as a thank you gift, in front of DH Wink

Stopyourhavering · 06/09/2016 15:08

When I had my pfb by CS , dh and our 2 friends ( godparents to dd) brought a lovely bottle of champagne into ward.....I couldn't drink it cos I had the most appalling oral thrush caused by emergency induction which saved dd and my life, but I digress
Let him have his wine and get him to buy you some lovely perfume or whatever you would like instead, not a push present really

expatinscotland · 06/09/2016 15:22

Make sure you give it away tonight so he can't drink it whilst you are in hospital. What a waste of money! If you don't give it away tonight, hide it now.

TBH, I'd return it. It's not at all thoughtful.

sianihedgehog · 06/09/2016 15:24

That sounds really inconsiderate, but just so you know, you absolutely can drink while breastfeeding.

MarcelineTheVampire · 06/09/2016 15:27

You realise you can drink whilst breastfeeding?

WineGrin

Mrsmummyof1 · 06/09/2016 15:29

Only really mildly irritating in my opinion. My DH did a lot more annoying things when I was pregnant and around the birth!

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