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Original poster

AIBU to not want to wax/shave down there?

45 replies

Badgoushk · 05/09/2016 22:24

Waxing hurts, shaving gets stubbly, hair removal cream stinks and burns!

But most of all, I just don't like the non-hairy look. I don't like feeling pressurised by society into complying. I'm happy going au naturel!

Am I the only person who feels this way?!

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bonzo77 · 05/09/2016 22:40

How do you get a job in gynae looking at women's vulvas (vulvae?) for 6 weeks? Like if they know you'll only be there 6 weeks how comes they let you down that end? Or was it meant to be a more long term thing but the hairless minges put you off?

BringOnTheSarsons · 05/09/2016 22:41

queenbean Grin

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Badgoushk · 05/09/2016 22:41

I'm more than happy to be different. But I suppose I just wanted to know that there are other people out there who feel the same way. That I'm just another version of 'normal'! Ha!

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UmbongoUnchained · 05/09/2016 22:41

I imagine it was a rotation as a student Bonzo...

DelicatePreciousThing1 · 05/09/2016 22:42

Everyone knows it is much prettier not to be "natural", don't they?

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Badgoushk · 05/09/2016 22:42

Ha! Yes, as a student.

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HappyAxolotl · 05/09/2016 22:49

YANBU at all! Do as you please with your hair down there. And every other hair on your body and head.

For all this that we hear that every other woman out there is as bald as an egg down there, I couldn't tell you what any of my friends do with theirs and every woman I've caught an accidental eyeful in the gym changing rooms has had a short trim with the bikini line tidied. And I'm guessing that women who gym n'swim regularly probably pay more attention to hair removal than most of us do. But I could be wrong.

As for it being a trend from porn, well I'm not a porn watcher but from what I hear about porn and what I chat with friends about sex, most of what is done and seen in mucky films isn't done in real life either.

Mysterycat23 · 05/09/2016 22:50

OP can you tell us more about this gynaecology department? Were the women shaved by surgeons prior to surgery or something? If not where was this geographically and what age range were they? Did any have a landing strip or were they fully bald?

ArmySal · 05/09/2016 22:55

How could you POSSIBLY be unreasonable to not want to shave your pubes? Seriously?

Grin Absolutely this.

Never been asked in RL if I shave or not, so many threads on here though Grin

maisiejones · 05/09/2016 22:58

I'm letting mine grow wild. Winter's coming and it'll save me putting a rug over my knees. 😜

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Badgoushk · 05/09/2016 23:03

Mysterycat23, In the south east. Mainly under 50 years of age. Not shaved by surgeons. I was as surprised as you!

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BengalCatMum · 05/09/2016 23:09

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Ilovetorrentialrain · 05/09/2016 23:10

OP I'm really surprised at your experience too. Even for those that wax there is an 'inbetween waxes' period where the hair has to grow. What are the chances of them being newly waxed for the appointment... Unless people prepare for gynae appointments by removing hair thinking they're being helpful somehow?!

Queenbean · 05/09/2016 23:12

Bengal you should've replied "with silver bells and cockle shells and pretty maids all in a row" and left him proper confused

UmbongoUnchained · 05/09/2016 23:12

I think a lot of people prepare themselves for gynae appointments. I remember my friend saying she had to get up mega early so she could shave for her smear.

Iggi999 · 05/09/2016 23:14

Umbungo I prepare myself. I wash.

Shodan · 05/09/2016 23:15

I've actually done an extensive study on this I asked two younger friends

The conclusion was that 50% of women remove all hair as a matter of course.

The other 50% think 'it's gross' to let someone 'muck about down there with wax' and only tidy around the edges themselves.

Interestingly the study did not include the findings from the interviewer, which were that in her lifetime her 'ladygarden' has probably had more different hairstyles than the hair on her head.

So I think we can all agree, based on the research methods was pissed and on holiday, the demographic two equally drunk women and the results anything goes, that it doesn't matter what you do with your topiary, so long as you don't make a habit of flashing it in the fish aisle of Waitrose.

NoahVale · 05/09/2016 23:17

it is far healthier not to, i read the other day

MrsMook · 05/09/2016 23:30

I take a similar approach to the council hedge cutting team; intermittently realise its proving an obstruction and send out some industrial trimming equipment to tidy up the edges.

The person who cares most is me. I don't like to encourage shaving rash and ingrown hairs.

poshme · 05/09/2016 23:30

'I prefer to French plait it down my thighs as I can't be arsed to shave my legs either.

My pit hair is permed.'

I just love this!!!

My lady garden- I trim it occasionally. DH isn't bothered either way.
If he was- well that's tough shit for him.

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