I haven't had very good experiences on FB. I'm an adult woman and it has really knocked my self esteem. I feel really stupid to even admit this, but it really hit on social insecurities and feelings of not belonging.
I had a very unstable childhood and adolescence so making friends was always a bit tricky. It was not until uni that I managed to keep a group of friends for a longer period of time. However, I emigrated soon afterwards so the contact became more difficult, even though we live in the era of instant communications.
My family is also very fractured so I never felt too comfortable to have certain cousins or be contacted by my in laws or other family members.
Anyway, when my birthdays came, I would get one or two birthday wishes whereas I had to see how other people got hundreds! Even from people who were "in the real world" closer to me than to them. Even some of my friends would wish my partner happy birthday on FB and not me!
I know this all sounds so ridiculous on paper but I kept asking why. Why couldn't/wouldn't my so called friends show more love and affection towards me on that site? I even had a couple of people never accepting my friends' requests!
As it was getting excruciatingly painful to feel so ignored and disengaged from it all, I finally deleted my account.
Only about one or two people of the hundreds in there emailed me to keep in touch. Others, I kept in touch because I see in real life.
It really made me question the quality of my so called friends. Something I never thought I had to question. I felt so hurt and ignored but also so stupid for caring about my image on social media.
Whenever I see other friends showing me stuff on FB, I feel so down. It's like I couldn't even keep up the whole "happy show" going. It was so painful to see I had to go.
Has anybody felt this way about FB?
AIBU?
to dislike FB with a passion - I know another FB thread!
Margo3791 · 05/09/2016 17:43
Another one who's with you OP. I've considered deleting mine a few times really, the most recent thing for me is a with a group of friends who I see and socialise with quite often, out of the 6 of us 4 of us have recently got family dogs and we are all equally delighted with them. However, whilst the other two who are both self professed 'anti-dog' gladly show their support to the other 3, always reacting to their photos and/or commenting on how gorgeous the dog is and how lovely the pic is, 'Can't wait to meet him/her etc' they have never once so much as liked any of my pics. It's only ever these two who are as thick as thieves that ignore them and it's definitely only mine they ignore. I really don't get how they can be seemingly genuinely interested and happy for the other 3 but not for me 
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I enjoy FB, but I think you have to take it with a pinch of salt. The other day I posted something and someone commented 'You're bang on there - and I don't always agree with you!' I started out bewildered and wondering what I could possibly have said that was offensive enough for someone to make such a comment. Then I got angry and thought 'Why does he thinks he's so bloody important that I need his approval?' Then I realised he'd probably already forgotten he'd even commented by now and should probably stop thinking about it 
Some of my friends seem to live their entire lives on Facebook, to the detriment of the real thing. One friend of mine will spend an entire night in a panic if he hasn't been tagged in every bar we've been to, if the check-ins haven't had enough likes... I did once snap and tell him to stop worrying about looking like he was having a good time and start actually having one.
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I deleted my FB account a year ago for similar reasons and have never looked back. Don't miss the neediness, bragging, fake supportiveness, stupid cat videos, minion quotes, pics of food, duck-faced selfies or check ins at Costa Coffee in the slightest!
I actually quite liked people's holiday pics as at least they were doing something rather than posting every random thought that crossed their minds. I was actually starting to look down on some real life friends because of the absolute load of garbage they posted which showed up a side of them I wasn't aware of!
Could never understand why some people carried on private conversations in the public domain, or why they felt the need to thank their OH on FB for example polishing their shoes (or whatever) then posting pic of shoes for everyone to admire and like their status! Why do some people feel the need to exhibit every facet of their lives on FB?
Don't miss it at all. Delete and don't look back. (And spend the time on MN instead! 
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