tell my sister to dump his sorry ass

[mydshines]

I be showibg this thread to my sister later. Well basically she was with this guy for 4 years total twat imo. N ever got a weekend away always I tight with money.

But he nice things too she is 34 and his 45 years old. She loves him anyway about a year ago they had a fallen out and he contacted his former ex and yadda. He was keeping his options opened. When she found out she confronted him and told him to pick his choice and he choosed her. She also told him that if she ever finds out if there any more contact between them she dump his sorry ass. And she told him she had a mutual friend that will tell her. And she looks at. Her fb page regularly.
They have no kids together. They don't live together. And no ties. his ex wrote something up on fb about her bf trying to worm his way in yesterday.
So she msg her and got concrete proof that he was Skyping her and fb msger.

For about month. She sended her screenshots of conversations with dates and times.

My sister is devastated she feels there is no way back as she always states to herself if there was any contact between them it be game over. She going to confront him today or tomorrow. She told our mom about the latest drama. Mother is quite fond about him. She told to think careful before she says anything to him as you cant take it back. And she is slightly overreacting she told my sister as there was a reason he wasn't married. . And told her she be lonely and if she dumps his sorry ass she miss him and no one to take her to bingo and be lonely
and no one will have her as she has no job. And no man likes that.
Obviously her resolve is started to wain a bit she starting to think she will confront him but not tell him take a hike. She does have esteem issues as do I. Wwyd. Iam furious with mother for putting doubts in her head.

Op, what culture are you from? Also is English your first language? These things could be relevant.

I think you're right and your sister needs to leave this man. She might be heartbroken but now that she's seen him for what he is I doubt it'll last too long.

If he's that tight with money she's realistically not going to see any of it anyway is she? So staying for the money is pointless.

Would she be able to get a job or do some volunteering? Having a bit more independence might help with her low self esteem and allow her to get out there and meet new people.

Hi all,
We have made some deletions for troll hunting and comments that were not in the spirit of MN.

But where's the wasp?

Thanks all she is going to confront him this afternoon. But our mother is pleading her not. My sister suffers froM high blood pressure. So I hope she be ok she told me he is her solemate.

that his new girlfriend will get the benefits
Of what?
A lying, cheating, scumbag. Surely she's welcome to him.
No-one should put up with this kind of shite.

Is your DSis in the UK?
If so then she needs to get on-line and do the Freedom Programme.
It's run by Womens Aid and will help her with all sorts of issues that she has around men.
And looking at your DMum response we can see where it comes from.
Gone are the days when women just 'put up and shut up'
We are strong individuals and can live quite happily by ourselves.

Your DSis needs to get some independence though.

Some soul mate...unless she thinks that all she deserves is a liar and a cheat.

An update. She confronted him by ph and said she sorry but she won't meet him today because if that. He denied it said he hasn't spoken to her. She shown him screenshots of conversations and he said he loves my sister. And said she started it. My sister said that you knew what she do

Ass is slang for donkey in Ireland

Um is it?

And said she started it
OMG - isn't he a gem???!!!
Blaming your DSis for being lying, cheating, sleaze - NICE!
He can't even accept responsibility for his disgraceful actions.
Yes HIS actions.
Nothing to do with your DSis.
Did she tell him to go out and flirt with others?
This guy is a total and utter cock.
Please try to ensure she keeps well away.

I took it that the dh was doing the classic blame the ow rather than the dsis, which makes even less sense. He's seriously reaching if he was blaming dsis.

I hope she dumps him though I suspect she won't. ..

Aha yes PGP that makes sense.
Still friggin awful though.
Still taking no responsibility.
Cock!