About DS's bedtime

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DS is nearly 13. He goes back to school on Tuesday, his sister (7) tomorrow. She's tucked up in bed, lights off, all excited to meet her new teacher. I told DS that his gadgets had to be off at 9pm and he could read until 9.45pm, which he protested about at first but reluctantly agreed to. Then I added that I wanted his tablet and phone put on the table at the top of the stairs, mainly because if they're not physically out of his room he'll be on them all night, just hiding them under the duvet when I tuck him in later. He went ballistic at this, saying I'm over protective and that it was unreasonable to make him go to bed so early and that none of his friends went to bed at that time, blah, blah, blah.

Am I being unreasonable to insist on this bedtime routine? He wants to go with me to take DD to school in the morning so it will be like a normal school morning tomorrow anyway.

I do, every night. H and I both tuck them in when we go to bed.

I think a lot depends on the child. Mine all have had a 9pm bed time in school years 7/8.

But as parents we are usually in bed and asleep by 10/10:30pm

Tell him he's lucky.

No tech upstairs in this house at all. No phones, tablets, tv's , games consoles , NOTHING! We don't even have a phone point upstairs. DW takes a mobile up at night in case of emergency but it's never used.

Kids have a playroom / office for computers etc and gadgets are switched off after dinner and put on charge all together on the desk (easy to see if one is missing as they are all literally not to each other and there would be an empty charger).
. Bedrooms are for quiet play, reading or sleeping.

Alarm clocks are the only electronics in bedrooms.

YANBU
Charge them overnight in the kitchen including the parents' phones
But keep a £1 nokia 100 with at least £2 PAYG credit in the master bedroom for emergencies

That's very specific roses 😂

Blimey... My eight year old is never asleep before 10, often much later! My four year old goes to bed at 7.30 during term, and the eight year old and ten year old go up at 8, tv's off at 9. Ten year old will be asleep not long after, but the eight year old? No chance!

My dd is 13 and goes up to bed at 8.45pm on school nights but doesn't have to go to sleep until she wants to. Sounds mad but she seems very good at self regulating and is usually asleep when I go to take my make up off about 10ish. We have a no gadgets in bedrooms at bedtime rule and she has to leave her phone and iPad downstairs charging in the kitchen when she goes up. She can read or watch DVDs on her portable DVD player. She doesn't ever complain and seems happy enough about it all.

I have 2 sons ages 12 and 9 they have a 8pm bedtime, all gadgets left downstairs

Are they up at 5am though?!

Apparently DD (10.5 in yr5) is the only person with such an early bedtime in her class- they all go after 9 while I have extended her to 8.15. In reality, it's 9 before she's settled every night, and she needs her sleep badly as she's very active during the day (sports training daily on top of general life and school stuff).

I aim for 10pm myself asi am up early and pretty busy too. And really need some downtime after Miss Hyper goes to bed.

But I am still "mean mamma.