Aibu to think it's not worth having a 'nose job' at 57?

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A friend of mine is considering having her nose done ( she's come into a little windfall )
which is fine, but I can't help thinking is it worth it at 57?

Aibu?

You don't say how old you are OP.

It's easy, when you're youthful to imagine that by the time you're 50 you're dead inside - no desires, hang ups, regrets ...

If bloody only.

Education is different, I'd encourage anyone, whatever their age to carry on with that. But cosmetic surgery is a bit different.

But cosmetic surgery is a bit different.

And you haven't really said why.

There may be more associated risks with having CS at your friend's age. Her surgeon will point these out to her. A decent surgeon will ensure that your friend has realistic expectations of the outcome.

If you don't like your ears, you can hide them with a different hairstyle. If you don't like your weight, you can lose/gain weight. You can tone parts of your body that you think are flabby/lacking in tone.

But the nose is different. If your friend doesn't like her nose, there isn't much she can to camouflage it that doesn't involve surgery.

Her new nose will enhance her life though just the same as a college course or a new hobby at 57 people shouldn't resign themselves to what's the point

I agree. & I'd say go for it if she was a bit younger. I'm not anti cosmetic surgery at all, if it helps your self esteem & quality of life then great. It's having it done when you're pushing 60, surely you're a bit more confident by then?
I dunno, I fully accept I'm being unreasonable here.
Oh - & I'm no 20 something ( I'm in my 40's! )

You are back to her age just because she is used to her nose doesn't mean she actually likes her nose her age is irrelevant,
this is probably the first time she has spare money for herself to spend on her nose and at near 60 good for her.

I got a brace in my late 30s. So glad I did it.

I got a brace in my late 30s. So glad I did it.

I'm about to. Might have to have paletal expansion first. I feel v nervous and geriatric to be doing this but hope it will be worth it.

It's having it done when you're pushing 60, surely you're a bit more confident by then?
No way am I a fan of cosmetic surgery but really? I take it you've heard of the menopause? If your friend is 57 she's quite likely just coming out of it and is looking in the mirror and wondering where the hell her body has gone. If you're in your 40s, it'll be coming your way soon. Do come back and tell us how confident you're feeling then.

I'm in my forties but I can believe that floisme. There's confidence that comes with age of course OP, and for a brief while you're still attractive and you have all of this confidence to boot, then you realise, hang on, I'm being over looked, side lined, ignored, people are looking over my shoulder to talk to younger colleagues. You need a whole new type of confidence then. It's back to the drawing board for a type of confidence that is partly acceptance, sadness, re-framing your identity within the context of how society sees you.

I think the woman should do it and enjoy having a nose without a bump (or whatever it is about her nose that still bothers her).

VeryBitchyRestingFace, I sent you a pm, I hope you don't mind.

VeryBitchy, definitely do it. I met am old colleague I hadn't seen in a while and she's just had a brace removed (she's 40). Her teeth looked amazing, perfect. It's so nice to be able to smile and not wonder if food is caught in my teeth.

Gosh - I;m 56. I;ve recently had a breast reconstruction- not because I am wanting to flash my breasts at people, I don;t have partner and don;t plan on having a relationship any time in the future. I did it for me. It makes me feel good.

Your friend could live another 40 years - at 57 people aren't hanging around waiting to die, they are living their lives. (Oh and my srrgery was major plastic surgery - over 10 hrs in theatre and was very successful, I;m thrilled with the result. I would think a nose job would be a smaller op and a very good chance of a good result)

My friend had a nose job. Ok, she was in her early 20s at the time but she really did hate her nose and when it was changed she was happy - that was 20 years ago. It bothered her, she fixed it, she moved on. Sounds like your friend has had a long time to be sure it really bothers her and that feeling isn't going to go away.

Noses are funny things anyway. My DCs like to tell me how pointy mine is (and red, thanks kids). I agree with them but I'm sure it wasn't pointy when I was in my 20s. I think it's also got bigger (is it true ears and noses continue to grow?). I don't think of myself as a big nosed person because I never was but I need to accept the reality of the situation is somewhat different! I've only had 10 years or so of this though, not all of my adulthood.

YABVU

why is it not worth it in your opinion? Jealous?

I'm older than 57 and still thinking about cosmetic dental work.

My mum had a brace and major dental work at 75. So far, she's had almost 15 years of respite from living with what she felt were very unusual and hideous teeth.

Your friend could live to 90 or a 100. If she even gets another 30 years of happiness by having a new nose, good on her. I'd far rather spend money on something like that than cars or holidays

OP I can tell you are very young, because when you get to 60 or so, you will find that in your head you are the same as when you were 20. It's got nothing to do with being confident as you get older- in fact confidence can wane when looks fade and you start hating what you see in the mirror.

Being 55 or 60 is not old- look at Twiggy and 65 and Lulu around the same age- and Joanna Lumley, 70. Do you think these women should just give up?

I had my nose pierced at 52.

It looks fucking fantastic and I preen about it.

Well I am 48 and booked in for a nose job in October.

I very confident in myself - but dislike my nose.

I can afford it and want it changing. So why not?

why is it not worth it in your opinion? Jealous?

Possibly? but with me it isn't the money, I'm just not brave enough to go through with it.

You just sound really judgemental tbh OP. Her nose, her money, her life. Not much of a friend if you won't just support her and keep your odd opinion to yourself

We are never too old to want to look and feel more attractive. I resent the very thought that we should just throw in the towel past a certain age.

I suspect your friend has wanted, yearned, longed for the opportunity to change her nose. This windfall must feel like a gift from the very heavens. Good on her!