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AIBU?

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To think you don't ask a runner for directions

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Nocabbageinmyeye · 03/09/2016 17:52

I find this so annoying, out running this morning and a car stops to ask me directions, it's not the first time it's happened, I'm not the only one around, why would you stop the person clearly out for a run instead of someone clearly out for a leisurely stroll or go into the local shop. I stopped this morning as I was only into the second km but last time I was almost home after a 10km and the colour of a tomato so just said "ah come off it"as I kept running. Why would you do that, aibu to think it's rude? It's annoying anyway I know I'm not unreasonable in saying that

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Statelychangers · 03/09/2016 22:30

Kid I do interval training but it is never on a long run - don't know what kind of training you like to do - but I either do intervals or long run, not both and I don't have to justify why I chose to separate, it's just the way I like to train - is that ok with you?

EvansOvalPies · 03/09/2016 22:35

Isn't exercise meant to reduce anger? Doesn't appear to work for some people. Solution - Exercise More!! Get out on those little pins of yours and run FASTERRRR

avamiah · 03/09/2016 22:39

Ha ha ha.
Is it just me who knew they should of never posted on this thread. Ha ha
At the end of the day,
OP had a choice, to stop or carry on running and it's not like she was in a race .
There is always another day.

Statelychangers · 03/09/2016 22:40

Great suggestion Evans but I fear more running might just make me more of a cunt rather than less angry!

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Nocabbageinmyeye · 03/09/2016 22:41

I did have a choice and I did stop

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EvansOvalPies · 03/09/2016 22:42

Oh No!

Iggi999 · 03/09/2016 22:44

I wonder how many people needing directions stop male runners. Fewer, I expect as they are doing important things

Marmalade85 · 03/09/2016 22:48

Were you running or jogging? I think YABU if you were jogging next to a road as I hate pavement joggers.

avamiah · 03/09/2016 22:48

Nocabbageinmyeye/OP,
Ok.
Then what did they want?
Directions for where?
If it wasn't a emergency like I said before then NO, YANBU.
They are probably not runners/joggers as they would not of stopped you .

NavyandWhite · 03/09/2016 22:51

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Nocabbageinmyeye · 03/09/2016 22:56

avamiah today these people weren't lost, part of my run is through a very large estate (like 200 acres) some of it public and beautiful gardens, they were driving out of it and seemed to be on a drive and we're looking for another beauty spot about 20-25km away cross country so complicated enough, I got them.as far as i could(another village) and said to ask there as it was all back roads so hard to just give out without writing down really.

Where I run isn't the type of place you get people walking to the doctors etc or rushing for public transport (there is none), it's full of leisurely walkers (who's time is no less important than mine), I was just a strange ask

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 03/09/2016 23:02

So all those who think it's no big deal to interrupt a runner, would you interrupt anyone doing the following to ask directions?

Singer, musician, dancer, actor, gymnast mid-practice/mid-performance.
Football or other sporting team member mid-game.
Debater mid-speech.
Tennis player mid-match.
Worker in the middle of a complex procedure.

In all cases, you would be breaking that person's concentration and really inconveniencing them. I just can't see that in most cases that's justified.

If I'm lost and don't have a map, I look for somebody who as far as I can judge will (a) know the area and (b) not be too inconvenienced by having to stop what they are doing to talk to me. Isn't that normal? I wouldn't dream of just going up to the nearest person regardless of what they're doing and demanding help.

avamiah · 03/09/2016 23:02

Blimey,
Haha.
Your not a runner/jogger I take it?haha
Well unless it's a Life or death situation then probably best not to but then again it's your decision.
Good luck 😉

EvansOvalPies · 03/09/2016 23:04

NoCabbageinmyEye in your opening post, you wondered why someone wouldn't stop in a local shop to ask for directions. Yet in your last post, you intimate you were in the back of beyond. Exactly how many shops might there be in the back of beyond?

FreshHorizons · 03/09/2016 23:05

I can't see the problem. I often get asked when I am running- can't see why I should be a special case.

RichardBucket · 03/09/2016 23:06

I'm glad there are plenty of non-arsehole runners on this thread.

EvansOvalPies · 03/09/2016 23:08

But GaspO - for all the examples you give, all of those people would be carrying out their exercise in appropriate places. A tennis player would be playing on a tennis court, footballer on a pitch, debater on a stage, you get the gist. A person using the public highway, which is a public space, not a private one . . . . . Anyone using public space is fair game.

FreshHorizons · 03/09/2016 23:12

If I am running I am likely to be local and will be able to direct- seems the sensible choice. I don't get why OP is bothered by this. .

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 03/09/2016 23:13

In my part of SE London, almost everything I mentioned could be happening on the grass in our local park!

OK then, forget running for exercise. How about somebody running for a bus? They're on a public highway. Why shouldn't they just stop and give directions and forget about the bus? I don't see why being on a public highway is a factor, really. It's the idea that no matter what X is doing, Y has the right to go up and stop them that bemuses me.

Pickitup · 03/09/2016 23:14

The best reply is "follow me"

I dont think yabu at all. Ive both stopped and not stopped when asked. Depended on which, of many, situations I was in. Eg, No chance I'd stop when doing speed work, highly likely when doing a longer slower run etc.

FreshHorizons · 03/09/2016 23:15

Trying, and failing, to see how any of Gasp0's examples could be remotely comparable.

FeralBeryl · 03/09/2016 23:31

I'm not a runner, awful at it. However I do respect the fact that it is difficult to stop once you're in the zone and like allthecarbs I will gesticulate them across the road when safe for me to do so.
But YWBU to shout 'ah come off it' to someone, the breath you used up doing that could have easily been utilised to shout 'next left then 3 blocks up'

BodsAuntieFlo · 03/09/2016 23:42

I don't mind people stopping me when I'm running as we get a lot of lost tourists on the country roads where we live. I can run and still speak FFS. I don't see what all the drama is about. 🙄

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Nocabbageinmyeye · 03/09/2016 23:45

Nobody shouted Feral my tomatofied head managed after 9km (a lot for me) to pant out "ah come on" while half gesturing to the loads of people a few metres on clearly on leisurely strolls that he could have asked, there was definitely no shouting it was said in a "really? Out of all for us you ask me and I can hardly breath?" tone

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Memoires · 04/09/2016 00:10

StatelyChangers thank you - no, I hadn't read the thread, I assume that was obvious. I still haven't because I'm not at all interested in running and don't care enough, but I did care enough to want to know why asking a runner for directions was ur. Now I know.

On the other hand, if you want to be in a state of concentration and not be interrupted, then the wrong place to be is on the public highway. IMO.

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