to be scared of going to Paris?

[LPWimsey]

We have a holiday to Paris booked for half-term - dh, me & 6 yr old dd. We're travelling on the Eurostar and are staying for three days in an apartment in the Marais. I really love Paris and have been numerous times ~ most recently November 2014. This time, though, I can't stop thinking that I'm potentially endangering dd's life by going and can't decide whether I should just cancel it or not. Some of my family live there and are just getting on with living, but especially after Nice, I can't help feeling so vulnerable. It would be ok if it was just me and dh, but dd too? I know statistically the chances are tiny and just as likely to happen in London or Birmingham, but what would you do?

I love Paris but I wouldn't go. I want to relax and enjoy myself when I go on holiday and I personally would just worry, especially if I had my child with me.

We 've just come back. We felt completely safe the whole time. There were not searches at every shop, just large ones, and everyone was very friendly. Twice we were approached by people who heard us speaking English who just wanted to chat. One woman said that in times like these we need to make connections, stand together and enjoy life. There is armed security, groups of three or four officers on patrol and we saw them most days. It's a wonderful city. Go.

YANBU to worry, all parents worry and feel guilty about something, right??

However, living in London, I actually feel safer here than I do when I go and visit family in the Midlands. I imagine Paris to be the same.

You have to make a decision that's right for you and your family. I would go and have a lovely time. Unfortunately we are now in an age where terror attacks could occur almost anywhere, any time, with so many young people being radicalised across the UK, I think if you start to let the fear rule your life, you will never leave the house.

I haven't logged in for ages, but I was compelled to for this. Please go. I just got back from Marseille, 3rd biggest city in France. I was torn about it tbh, but my husband was really understanding and watched out for my anxieties. We had the most wonderful time, amazing. Being us, we didn't spend masses of time in the middle of the city but ate at night in heavily populated areas and it was fine. I won't say I didn't freak out once or twice but I'm so glad I went.
I'm thinking about taking ds 11 to Paris on my own in October half term. If I can do that, you can. Enjoy it, Paris is amazing.

We will do Paris another time. And we had a fantastic time in Isle of Wight with 6 days of sunshine. The point is, the spontaneous holiday we booked in Paris months previously just wasn't what we wanted nearer the time
We work in and out of London and are perfectly used to the terrorism threat here. However , terrorists mowing down families in crowded streets did make us stop and think about what we wanted from a holiday with our 8 year old. And I am mightily glad that nothing happened whilst we would have been there. However the threat still was and is there. As are the armed guards.

YABU. The next Daesh attack could happen anywhere & is actually more likely to happen outside of Capital cities (as Nice proved) as security there is so tight.

I have seen a few threads like this pop up over the last few years and I have to confess I don't really get them, fair enough if you had booked a trip to Aleppo, but Paris? There is greater chance of getting run over in your own street then being victim of a terrorist attack.

I was just going to post what pan did.

I do understand anxiety, but why would you worry about being killed/injured in a terrorist attack, when you are so much more likely to die in your own home/car?

Give yourself a stern talking to OP. You don't lose sleep every time you have to get in a car do you? So be kind to yourself and don't worry about travel, which is really very safe.

We're going back to Paris next month and I'm not worried at all. These attacks could happen anywhere, I don't think anywhere is more or less safe than anywhere else.

28000 people killed worldwide in terrorist attacks since start of 2015 - mostly in places that we don't change our facebook pictures or light candles for. 658 of those in Europe and America. (not clear if this includes America's almost daily gun massacre)

latest UK stats for road deaths from 2014 - 1775 people killed.

that is JUST the UK and JUST on the road.

if you are really worried (and you shouldn't be) take the holiday and sell the car!

We have stopped going to France, tbh it was more about the motorways/ ferries and tunnels being an absolute nightmare but out of season and using Eurostar I would be fine with Paris. Personal fear is just that personal, hope you can find enough reassurance to have a wonderful time.

YABU. I have a close family member who lives on the outskirts of Paris and works in Paris. Not more dangerous than any other European capital.