I'm a regular but name changed as I'm worried about linking to my normal name.
Background: I am married, have a 14month old DD and already had a nearly 4 year old cat (DCat1). DCat is a lovely quiet girl who generally hides under the bed but does come out for a play at night after DD is in bed and let's DD stroke her in the mornings before breakfast. DD is gentle with DCat1 and is taken away from her if she's rough; hits, pulls fur or scratches the cat.
Today while browsing Facebook I saw a post from a local woman saying she had 2 nine week old kittens that needed rehoming. Either they went today or she was going to let them out her house. It broke my heart so after a quick call to the RSPCA, who said they couldn't do anything because her animals where currently housed and well looked after, I travelled over to her address and rehomed the female cat - welcome DCat2.
Since then it's been hectic. The cats accidentally got introduced to each other when i bought DCat2 home because DCat1 had come to say hi to me really should of shut her away before I bought the other cat in Cat 1 was all for saying hello to Cat 2 (until 8 months ago when we rehomed her she lived with 6 other cats) but Cat 2 hissed at her so Cat 1 went back to hiding under our bed while Cat 2 explored. DD chased the kitten, but they seemed to be playing: Cat2 would look at DD run a bit ahead then stop and see if DD was following.
DH had to go off to work at 3pm leaving me with both cats and DD.
So, DD who's usually pretty laid back and placid threw a tantrum because the kitchen door was closed even though it's always closed unless I open it to go in there where I such it behind me. I shut DCat2 into the cat carrier while I was cooking DDs tea and she was eating.
DD then fell face first asleep into her tea at 4.15! So I put her into her bed, where she's been asleep since. Which means she'll most likely wake up early as she usually goes to bed at 7pm.
After DD was in bed I let Cat2 out to have an explore of the house. She immediately finds Cat1 and a hissing match ensues for 10 minutes before Cat2 finds Cat1s food bowl and eats her food. I take Cat2 away and feed her kitten food instead. After she finishes her food Cat2 tries to go back to our bedroom but I've already closed the door with DCat1, a food bowl and some water inside.
I've now shut DCat2 in her carrier to try and tempt Cat1 out but she won't budge from our room. Her foods not been eaten.
I'm worried I've made a mistake and we should rehome Cat2 today. I'm an experienced cat owner and have seen reactions like this before, but worried with DD as well things won't calm down until the kitten is older. I've always had older cats (2+) and never kittens.
DCat2 has never seen any other cats other than her mum and brother as she didn't like to go out at all. But she is now fast asleep in her carrier apparently unfazed by DD and her meeting with DCat1.
AIBU to think we've made a mistake? Or is this just first day settling in?